When you are ‘attached’ to something – whether it be something you want, a person, a situation, or anything else – you will have stifled your flow and be making it difficult for it to naturally manifest how you would like it to be.

On the Manifesting Excellence group I created a thread yesterday titled “You know you’re ‘Attached’ when you say things like...” where we shared many clues to know when you are  attached’ to something and know that you are not letting it happen, and then to work on relieving that.

Below are some of the comments I posted early on. Since then the thread has grown with many  other’s commenting and we will be having a call/audio to go into this in more detail and to resolve this and manifest what you are wanting.  If you’d like to find out more you can by  registering at Manifesting Excellence.


“You know you’re ‘Attached’ when you say things like…”

– “I just need this goal or thing and everything will be ok”
– “ When will it happen?“
– “I ‘hope’ this happens…”
– “I need to manifest this so badly“
– “I ‘need’ this…“
– “I need it by x (eg Friday)”
– “My friends will think differently of me or not like me in the same way anymore”
– “How could you do this to me?”
– “I ‘just’ need this to work out...”
–  And so many more!! 

If you’d like to know the others and how to resolve them, click here to register to access the rest of the thread and the call/audio that will be covering this in detail.

Just to give you a heads up, over the next few days, weeks and months you will be having access to various content and resources from me, including some free resources.

Also, in order to update you on something upcoming or to share content, you may be getting more posts from me.  I hope this is ok with you!  The intention would be to share content and resources with you and let you know of upcoming events that may interest you.

I am teaching an online “Mastering the Law of Attraction” course in just over a week (Postnote: This is available now as an audio via the same link)

Excerpts from these will be shared on the Manifesting Excellence calls as well as articles I will be writing and radio shows and free calls that are upcoming.  The articles will be shared here on the blog at www.manifestingandlawofattraction.com.  If you haven’t checked this blog out in detail, it has been running for over 4 years and has over 300 posts!

Below are ways that you can access this information, including some free resources, to get the answers YOU want to create more what what YOU want in YOUR life!

Here are some aspects of what is currently scheduled –

– 27th September (Thurs) 11am Pacific Time/2pm Eastern Time/7pm UK time – FREE 30 min conference call on “3 Keys to Energetically Solving your Problems and Attracting Your Goals”. There will be content and a preview to “Mastering the Law of Attraction”, CLICK HERE to register for this FREE call

– 30th September (Sun) 11am Pacific Time/2pm Eastern Time/7pm UK time- Kenneth Heiber of New York’s ONE VOICE RADIO presents Hemal Radia. Kenneth has had various celebrities on his show including Gloria Gaynor, The Village People and will be interviewing Hemal about his book and sharing insights for you to create magic in your life. Details of accessing this FREE online radio show will be available soon.

– 4th October (Thurs) – “Mastering the Law of Attraction” 4-week online course with audio downloads begins, CLICK HERE to register
As well as about the above, you will hear from me with articles and other resources that you may find valuable.  There is also of course the Manifesting Excellence calls where I will be sharing great content over the coming weeks and months and YOU can request whatever you like on there, whether it be questions you have or specific content you would like to know more about.

You will be hearing from me this week, including in reminding you about some of the above events this week.  I wish you a phenomenal start to your week!

I have been asked by The en*theos Academy of Optimal Living to teach Law of Attraction courses on their network.  If you remember, a few months ago I taught a 4-part course on the “Fundamentals of the Law of Attraction“.

I’m writing to let you know that next month is “Mastering the Law of Attraction“!  It will be a live online class environment and also downloadable audios if you can’t make it live.

Click here to find out about the “Mastering the Law of Attraction” course

(If you are on Manifesting Excellence then will have courtesy access to this as a courtesy)

“The en*theos Academy for Optimal Living is excited to be hosting Hemal Radia as he shares his wisdom in The Fundamentals of The Law of Attraction! Hemal’s knowledge and enthusiasm are sure to make this an amazing course!” – Casey Carey, en*theos

Just to let you know that the topic for this week's Manifesting Excellence call is about "Bringing a BIG Goal Closer to Happening".

It came about from a question that was submitted for the call:
"I want to attract $400,000 to buy and sell property and live off the rent, buy property in Kuala Lumpar, look after my three girls and much more.  What should I be focusing on?  The money?  The property or Kuala Lumpar?  How can I make this dream come true?"

We will be talking about the action steps, the energetic steps, the psychology of going for something "big", and much, much more!

Click here to Register for Manifesting Excellence

I thought you might enjoy this excerpt from an email interaction I had with a client towards the end of last year.  She has happily agreed for me to share this.

Client: The Universe is going to bring you exactly what you want and what you are a match to… So if your "perfect vibrational match" was hypothetically in Canada or Russia would you get nudges, synchronicities etc that would lead you there, or them to you?

Hemal: Yes, or even someplace else.  It could be that someone somewhere else is also a match or someone in your own town or street is a match and you are given the guidance/steps to experientially realise that.  For example, there could be someone in your street who you weren't attracted to but through your intention and desire and alignment you have a growing awareness and attraction for them…a week or some other time later you see them in a different way – with "new eyes" – which is all we are doing when we are creating, we are seeing the world WE (i.e. you) have created with "new eyes" – and the world obliges.

So it’s not just about being attracted to someone physically, but having the awareness and energetic alignment to it.  If you are not energetically a match you won't see each other or the attraction won't be there. 

Re: Canada/Russia, you may get nudges in that direction…and all of a sudden a cousin in Canada/Russia might say "Come and visit me" and send you a ticket and you end up there and happen to be somewhere where you meet your match.  Or, as mentioned above,  you may meet them somewhere else.  You handle your energetic alignment, let the Universe handle the details.

Client: Would they only be there if that was what you believed?

Hemal: All possibilties are around you and it is up to you in seeing/recognising this – and yes, our beliefs are when we consistently see/experience something.    It’s like the salt cellar, what we want can be in front of us but us not recognise it.  When we attune to it, we see it.

It’s to focus that it’s here and feel it and let the Universe reveal it – though it’s not actually the Universe revealing it, it’s you revealing it to yourself, as you and the Universe are the one and the same anyway.

Client: Do you think there are always 100's of matches to you anyway??

Hemal: My view is there is no limit – the Universe is energy and everything is malleable.  Everything changes form, as do you and your thoughts.  It’s also not about what’s ‘out there’, everything out there is a projection of what’s ‘in here’.  So when you work with what’s ‘in here’, you see it more and more 'out there'.  It’s all a total choice.

"Relationships" was covered in the group call last Saturday on the Manifesting Excellence Group Calls.  Upon joining, you can access a recording of the almost 2 hour call.

If you would like to work one-to-one with Hemal Radia click here.

“Hi Hemal, I was wondering what your thoughts were on jealousy?

I have been hurt so badly in the past by someone and struggle to move on from that.

I stayed alone for sometime and thought I had dealt with it – via reiki and positive thoughts and law of attraction etc – now I am with my new man I on occasion feel it in my stomach and find it hard to keep under control.Dont get me wrong its not a possessive thing, just the odd occasion where I feel sick to the stomach. I know deep down its my own mind and self esteem and I work with this daily but wondered what your view on it was or any advice from your way….thanks for your time to read ..have a great day

Em x”

When we are going into a relationship, we are feeling wonderful things and the beautiful emotions build and build – an example of Law of
Attraction!  And then what happens is we may experience fears and
insecurities and other things may come up.  It may be that we are fearful of losing what we have, or that we have a bit of moment to reflect and absorb what has been happening and start to ‘think’ (and the fears and ‘patterning’ come up) rather than continue ‘being‘ in that wonderful feel-good place.

“After people attract something (such as a relationship), they can
sometimes get busy trying not to lose it, which is a very different
vibration to what attracted it to them in the first place…”

Jealousy is a response to thinking that something is yours when in fact, like everything else in the Universe, it isn’t, and you are no ones either.  Other than the fact that you are two souls meeting along your journey.

The discomfort that exists is because you are thinking thoughts that
are taking you out of your flow and from what you want.  And what you
want isn’t just this physical being in your life, but the essences of
what you are experiencing.  Whilst your physical body and mind
experiences this person, your soul and essences are experiencing so
much more and that is what led to the physical meeting.

You can’t be jealous if you are on your path and know that you will be ok. You cannot base your own wellbeing on another’s presence and feelings for you, but on your own connection to wellbeing and flow (which in itself is attractive for others to be around you).

You love them and adore them because, as a free being, you are chosing to be with them, and vice versa. There is no attachment or holding, especially emotionally. Allow them to be free, they will appreciate and love you even more for it.  Otherwise, energetically, they will feel constricted too.  And when someone feels constriction or pressure, little things can start to come in (such as disagreements, arguments etc) which can build.  It is far better to have the space within ourselves and allow the other, and ourselves, to be who we are.  To be fearless in all eventualities and being at peace with them, so we can enjoy our now.

“Anytime we build a strong momentum about something, and we experience
strong emotions or fears to the contrary, it can get pretty
uncomfortable.”

You cannot carve out and separate a bit of the Universe (such as a person) and hold it in statis
forever and say it is yours.  Everything is interconnected and
interrelated, as are you. You wouldn’t want it any other way.  You
wouldn’t want to be disconnected from your flow. It is more important
to you than this relationship or anything else, because it is to do
with your relationship with who YOU are as the spiritual being that is
living this physical life.

We fear losing what we have but remember we cannot ‘hold’ or ‘force’ something.  What we can do is deal with the fears about it.  What would happen if this person left?  Be at peace with that.  Have it so that does not scare you and you can focus your emotional energy on appreciating what you two have together.

Anytime a limiting thought comes up, identify the underlying what fear behind it, and let it go.  All fears are limited perspectives of the Universe.  They imply that you will not be ok as a result of something happening or not happening.  When in fact the Universe is wellbeing and does not place conditions on it, only you do.

Any jealousy or element of control is about one’s fear or lack of security or certainty about having or keeping something that they want, or how they want it. It is an illusion because you can never truly ‘have’ something and keep it static forever and how you want it.  That’s the illusion. And that can be scary itself the first time someone realises that.  But that’s only fear, it is not reality. The reality is you have no need to be scared because you are safe.

The ‘truth‘ is your flow and connection to all that you want, including through this person or thing that you want. Take your attention away from the noises and distractions from fear, and put them on your truth which is your ever-abundant and ever-infinite flow and adulation from the Universe.

How can you ever be without when you realise how much you mean to this Universe?  There was no coincidence in your creation, and nothing would be withheld from you.  You just needed to know how to ask for it – vibrationally.  In realising your connection, you have nothing to fear being without.  It’s like having fears in looking at a blade of grass, and not seeing the whole field.

About a week ago I was asked if I would answer some questions about self belief. I’m asked these sorts of questions often so I thought the answers might be useful to put in a post.  More information below…

Hi Hemal,
I hope you are doing great. I am reading a book on how to improve my grades in school, and I am on a part which talks about self-belief. I have an exercise to complete which is to ask a few questions to those that I admire the most. I thought that you would be the perfect person to ask. I know that you are a busy man and I won’t mind if you can’t take time to answer these, but I would really appreciate your response.  🙂

1. What compels you to take action and begin any type of work or project?

To follow my inspiration and what feels good (or ‘best’ in that moment).

2. What makes you keep on taking action when you feel overwhelmed? What makes you think you can finish it and do a great job of it?

Staying in the moment as best as possible.  Having faith and ‘knowing’ you will, but staying in the moment and enjoying it regardless of the outcome.

3. Others have not accomplished what you have. What do you think makes you different than them?

It’s not about what others do or not do.  It’s about whether I want to do it and if I do then staying in the moment and doing it.

4. When you have a challenge in front of you, how do you deal with it and how do you get past it?

Don’t see it as a challenge unless it inspires you positively, but focus on the outcome and how you’d like it to be and build that up.

5. What goes in your head when someone tells you that you can’t achieve your goal?

It’s not about what others think, it’s about oneself and their flow and their feelings/beliefs

6. What if you are wrong or if you make a mistake? How do you deal with this?

There are no mistakes.  If something doesn’t quite happen how you’d expect, see it as still fine as you got many other things out of it and what you needed from it you ‘perfectly’ got.

7. Can you provide me with any suggestions to help me develop a successful mindset?

Start with the intention and the application and continue building it.

And check out my free audios and blog!

🙂

Oh my God!!  These are the best answers I could get!!! You are awesome!! 😀 Thank you so much!  I really really really appreciate you taking time to answer them. Have a wonderful week! 😀

Anything YOU’d like to share?  Feel free to share in the comments below.

I received a question about how to make affirmations, goals and mantras work “better”, which stimulated me to write a bit on this subject.  The answer goes beyond the scope of what was asked in the question.

From my other articles or teleseminars, you’ll know my emphasis of focusing on the feeling of what you are doing (and wanting); that is the indicator of your vibration about it – and being a vibrational match to what you want is how you let it into your life.  If you are not connecting with your feelings, you’re not evoking your spirit, which is what we’re here to do after all, aren’t we? 🙂

What many people are not aware of when they use goals, affirmations, mantras, visualisation, or anything else, is that it is not about what you use, but it is ALWAYS about your vibration.  When you are looking to make Law of Attraction work for you, it is about you and your vibration.  What will work for you best will be that which raises your vibration the best, in that moment.  There are times you use a fork, there are times you use a spoon; similarly, you can use different techniques for different things.

“It is about the vibrational relationship between where you are and your desires.  Your emotions are the indicator of that relationship, and what you need to be doing to be closing the gap.”

This is something that I tell my clients and guide them with.  When you are looking to use a technique, it is just a tool for you to work with your vibration, as is everything else – actually, as is everything else in life.  In your experiences in life, you make choices and preferences and decisions – you are always moulding and adapting your vibration in all of these instances.  There is no moment in your existence when you are not influencing your vibration (for one reason, that is what you are: a physical extension of who you are on a deeper level).  Every thought that you are thinking, even the ones not in your conscious awareness, are shaping your vibration and what is coming into your life.

There is so much I can say about techniques, and oftentimes I do, especially in the teleseminars.  On the question of goals, affirmations and mantras, here are a few quick tips about them:

1 – Does it feel good when you think about the goal etc?  If not, why do you have it as a goal?  Because others want you to have it?  Ensure it is because you feel good about it.

2 – If it feels good, how can you tweak the goal (or affirmation or mantra or whatever you are using) so that it feels better?  Can you think of something more to this goal that you can add?  Something else?  More specificity?  A different colour?  More belief in what you can have?  What ways can it feel even better?

3 – If it’s an affirmation or mantra (i.e. “words”), there are certain words we have which are emotionally loaded.  How about “money”, or “soulmate” or “sex” for example.  Find the words that you have that feel the best for you, relative to what you are wanting, and put them in your affirmation or mantra.  Use modifiers to make it feel even better – words that make it feel even better, eg “my palatial mansion”, “my beautiful car”, “the woman/man of my dreams“, “deep peace” etc.

4 – Mantras can be different things to different people.  For some, they may be something they repeat to “get” something (such as a goal).  For others, they may use mantras to create a peaceful mind and be in the moment – it is more ‘state’ oriented than ‘goal’ oriented.  For example, they may repeat something whilst doing breathing exercises to orient themselves in their now.  If this is the case, then be aware of this and choose the words that best orient you in your now and your attention in the direction that you would like to be going.

5 – The goal which you visualise or affirm is relative to where you are at, vibrationally.  As you grow vibrationally and get closer to it, it can mean and feel differently.  Pay attention to your feelings.  You are an expanding being, and as you grow and expand, focus and include the things that feel best to you – similar to as mentioned above about making it feel better and better.

This was a request from a good friend to a quote I put up about Growth:

“That is comforting for the assurance Hemal…however, as we expand and grow…those around us will sometimes feel discomfort, which then transfers to us…maybe you could expand on how to handle this aspect of growth” – Henri Coleman

ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE YOU, AND THEM TO BE THEM

There are a few things about it. Firstly we cannot hold our own growth back because on a deeper level we are all expanding, and we do not have to. When we hold our own growth back we are against our own flow and it gets uncomfortable and eventually the discomfort can increase. It’s like pressing the accelerator and the brakes at the same time.

There are no coincidences in the relationships that we have, whether it be family, friends, pets etc. We, and they, came into this life to experience the contrast and the dynamics that we experience. However, we are always at vibrational choice of what we keep and allow in our experience.

Some might say, “Oh move on, you are no longer a match” and that can feel quite cold and hurtful. I don’t agree with that and I believe that if we would like to and choose to (and it IS a choice), we can be with anything or anyone if we choose solely to focus on the factors that we love and keep our attention off the things we do not like (that is what creates the resistance and discomfort and pushing away). Many though are habitually good at looking at the things that are wrong and that creates discord in the relationships.

Look to appreciate the gift that is your growth. See it also as an opportunity to share it with others. Now if others do not see it that way, do not hold it against them, and allow them to be themselves. Give them space to have their opinions as you allow yourself to do the same.

Their discomfort, with all due respect, is their stuff. You can support them and give them love, but it is for them to deal with. It’s like an analogy a good friend of mine uses, “You can’t lose weight for someone else”.

YOU ARE THEIRS AND EVERYONE’S INSPIRATION THROUGH YOUR FLOW

But through YOUR flow and inspiration you can inspire anothers to theirs. Oftentimes people have lost hope or they do not believe things can be a certain way. BE the inspiration and the light for the sake of being it – i.e. for YOU and because it is your flow. Let them choose to resonate with it. At first it may be scary for them. Again, their stuff. But that is part of their evolution and development, and that is also their choice.

Take your attention away from their challenges, put it on what IS good, whether within yourself, them, or anything else. If it feels good, it is getting you to your alignment. If you are in your alignment, you are in your flow and attracting all sorts of wonderful things. Make your focus your own flow, and choose to include or exclude things to pay attention to based on that, make that your criteria.

Thanks Hemal for taking the time to respond to my comment, that makes me feel really good 🙂

I have been trying soo hard to be positive and think good thoughts, and i know that we create our own reality but all I am wanting is to be happy and my ex and his entire family are not going to let me be. In fact, it seems that if it’s obvious that I am happy they seem to go out of their way to make me miserable. I just went thru a 2 yr custody battle and won (without an attorney non the less isnt that awesome!!) That was one day i truly felt the power of positive thinking because I went in there and told 100% the truth even though I could no longer afford an attorney and WON!!

But it seems this win has lit a fire under them and now they are trying 10x harder to make things difficult for me. I’m talking EVERY SINGLE DAY there’s either something popping in my inbox from them, prank calls, prank text messages, something coming in the mail, its really getting me down and I’ve even started to gain weight from it all and you know how that is on us women, that is making me even more depressed lol!!

So, I guess what I am asking is, how do I manage to maintain happy and positive in spite of the constant attacks? I certainly don’t think I am bringing this on myself am I? It’s making me miserable and I am already slipping into a depression which is what my ex wants me to do. I fell he just won’t stop until I am destroyed and I know you cant tell from not really knowing me but I am spiraling fast 🙁 Any words of encouragement will be gratefully appreciated.

Thank you again for taking the time to read this and for your lovely daily posts, they mean so much to me, more than you will ever know!!

Much respect,

Shannon

REPLY:

Hi Shannon,

Firstly, I wrote a post on my blog about a year ago which may resonate with you,
As a Single Parent How do I Handle my Ex?

My sense/hunch is that [by your attention to it] you are getting sucked into a fight so to speak. You are focusing on winning this battle and in doing that your attention is in pushing against them and hence you are attracting more of the same, that is just a sense on my part, but you will know best.

The thing to ask yourself is what are you doing all this for? The answer is probably to do with your child and your life, how would you like things to be?  Focus on the positive essences about that (rather than on a battle – which implies being in a battle and attracting more of the same), the things that are important to you about it, regardless of your ex and his family. Take your attention totally away from them and make it about what YOU want and what feels good to you.

Would you be ok with you getting what you want and them getting what they want? That may not be feasible or possible, I’m just asking the question in terms of would you be at peace with them having what they want? Don’t make this about what they get or what they don’t get, make it about the things that feel good to you and are important to you, regardless of them.

Because if you are having the emotions of a scrap, then regardless of them, if they go away then you will attract someone else to fill that space to match the vibration you are giving out (to have a battle). Make it about the essences that feel good – such as the beautiful life that you will have with your child, the things that you will do etc etc – i.e. make it about YOU and totally about YOUR reality, and then others can be drawn to it that match it.

I think the reason you get down is to do with with your attention on them rather than the attention on you.  And of course when you think about them there are emotions which are unpleasant and suck you in…and you think more about it…and it gets bigger, and so on.  Then you have manifestations such as the things that they are doing. And it may not be easy and of course things like ego and pride may come into it, but allow yourself to step away from that situation. Realise anything in life is about YOU, not about anyone else. As you have focused on them and the things that they have been doing it may have angered you or saddened you and of course it created more attention from you on them and it wasn’t allowing you to let it go out of your life.

The way to do that is to envision a life that you would like to be having when all of this is over and feel it now, thus that things can then orchestrate in line with that.  Put the same emotional emphasis to what you would like than on where you are leaving.  What is dominant in your vibration is what you head towards.

This post was automatically imported into my Notes on Facebook.  If you would like to see it and the comments people have been leaving for it then click here: “Battling with an Ex” Note on Facebook.  If you would like to leave a comment you are very welcome to leave one there or in the comments section below.

If you would like to work one-to-one with me on this sort of an issue or another you can find out more information at Work One-to-One with Hemal