1 The relationships you experience are a projection of your emotions.  They are acting out the scenarios in your vibrational script.  You can change the people, and new people will come in though they could have the same dynamics if you are offering the same vibration.  Change the vibrational script – via your thoughts and emotions – and the dynamics of the relationships in your life change.

2 – When you want to be having something in your life, start with a thought about that subject that feels good. Many people think thoughts that they doubt or contradict easily, and so little moves.

Step back a bit from it, and find a thought that you can ponder and dwell on, which feels good, and there isn’t that inner voice that doubts it. When you have the thought that you can congruently experience, just by dwelling on it, you attract another thought soon after (Law of Attraction!), and another, and another, and so on! 

That’s why I often say it’s like dipping into a stream.  There is an infinite stream – you just have to join it at a place you feel comfortable, then it will take you to wherever you want to go (by attracting more of the same).

3 – When you have an area of your life you want to improve or change, notice how you feel about it and what you think (how you feel will be a consequence of what you think).  Are you having mixed thoughts about it?  Any reservations?  Get to a place of congruence (i.e. not being mixed, but a place of clarity) on the subject.  From that ‘pure’ vibration, you will attract solutions and resources more easily.  From a ‘mixed’ place, it can be like trying to travel with a handbrake on.

The place of clarity can be anywhere, but the key thing is you are congruent about it.  Then, you just focus on it, and it takes you to where you want to go on the subject.  Most people don’t get there because they contradict or offer resistance and so the natural ‘stream’ can’t take them, they are offering too many mixed signals.  If you offer a point of clarity, the Universe will reflect that back to you, and it expands and grows.

4 – Be aware of your daily thoughts (and hence daily vibrational offering) about a subject.  It’s not just about the visualisation and other processes you do.  Be aware in case you are contradicting the processes with your thoughts during the day. Someone may visualise more money, but if in the day they are having other thoughts about it, they may be contradicting their good work.

5 – Realise that everything is in constant motion, even the things that appear to stay the same. They appear to ‘stay the same’ because you have the same attention on them and are re-creating them.  Everything is like a stream, a stream of life we could call it.  Everything is being re-created in each moment by your attention to it (as is the case with your body as well as everything around you).  Similarly, all relationships are being re-established again and again. 

Likewise, love is a process.  It is not just something that ‘happens’, but it’s also a process (whether conscious or unconscious) of ‘being’ in love that you are ‘doing’ in each moment.  Love exists and stays in your life because you are perpetuating it each time.  That is the same with everything else – whether it be poverty, wealth, loneliness, good health.  Nothing can exist by itself other than by a process – whether conscious or unconscious – which KEEPS it reoccuring (the consequence of the process may be actions, but also vibration).  The process re-establishes your relationship with that ‘thing’ and keeps it in your life.

If you think about it, you have a relationship with every ‘thing’ in the Universe – object, person, and any other.  Manifesting is about the process of your relationship with it.  When you want something to leave your life, it is also about the relationship with that ‘thing’.

> I am not sure that I am understanding something, on one hand we are told to detatch from any outcome and on the other hand am hearing that we should be emotionaly invested in the joy of the outcome so that it will manifest. I feel that I am eather missing or missunderstanding something important. Any light you can shed will be most appreciated. Again, Thank You and Bright Blessings.

It may seem contradictory, but they are actually the same thing.  The way I would suggest to people to 'detach ' from an outcome is to let go of the attachment or need to it.  Have your perspective such that it feels good.  So the emotions that you 'invest' towards it, if any, are light, and enjoyable.

Let go of the details, let go of any attachment or need to aspects of it.  Trust that by you focusing on the essences of what is important to you, the details will take care of themselves.  When you do this, what you will be doing is taking away any 'heaviness' and resistance towards it, and what you will be left with is the joy that you are talking about in emotionally investing in it.

> I am in a Law of Attraction Master Mind group and we are discussing the money aspect of our chosen path. We have been challenged to contact someone whom we admire that is doing what we wish to do and ask them a question. I have chosen you and the question is: What would you say about creating an income from someone's passion? If you feel that this something you can share with me I will be so grateful.
I thank you for your time and wish you bright blessings, Chessie, creator of "Evolution lf Self; Journey into Body, Mind, Spirit Balance"

If someone follows their true joy, that joy in itself has a very attractive vibration.  It will bring people to it that are a match to it.

What prevents many people from creating an income from what they love are their beliefs about it. 

Consider the following questions:

– Do I believe it is possible to make money from this?
– Do I believe that *I* can make money from this?

– As I think about doing this thing that I love, how do I feel?  Do I feel a conflict in relation to something else in my life, such as with creating money, or with something else?

– What other thoughts come up for me about this thing that I want to do?

It may not necessarily be that you always have to have positive answers to the above questions, it can even be that you just ALLOW the possibility of it (i.e. not block it).

If everything is energy in this Universe, then the possibility exists in everything.  The only thing that stops you is your vibration – which is composed of your beliefs about it.  Oftentimes, many of these beliefs are from past programming, maybe thoughts about 'traditional' ways of making an income etc. 

Regarding this last point about 'traditional' ways of making an income, some people, who are looking to start their own business, have been very used to making an income through a 'regular' job and when it comes to them starting their own business and following something they love, they may have beliefs about it not being right to do something that they love, that work and money are not meant to be enjoyable, etc.  These are all beliefs.  And beliefs can quickly be changed.

On the other hand, you can have beliefs that it is fun to make money, it is fun to do what you love – in fact that it's the best way.  That by you enjoying what you do, you are offering something so much more, and the money naturally comes from that also.  If you were giving someone so much joy and pleasure through the vibration of joy that you share, as you think about it, people would find it impossible not to give you money for it.

Some people believe they are not worthy to do what they love and make money from it.

In the joy of what you feel for what you are doing, the worthiness is inherent in that.  The value and the 'worthiness' is in the joy.  The vibration is the most important aspect that you can transfer on.  If you have that, then you are 'worthy'.  I wrote a blog post a couple of years ago about "It's not about the Actions but about the Energy behind those Actions."

In you questioning your worthiness, you are diluting the value that you offer.  Allow yourself to think of yourself in the grandest of ways and with the greatest contribution possible.  Activate the most powerful vibration within yourself.  Do it in the most loving of ways and in ways you resonate with, relative to your beliefs.  Allow your beliefs to expand and grow and for you to (vibrationally) 'grow' to this possibility for yourself.

In light of the above, as you think about it now, how unnatural would it be to NOT make money following your love… 😉

“Hi Hemal, I was wondering what your thoughts were on jealousy?

I have been hurt so badly in the past by someone and struggle to move on from that.

I stayed alone for sometime and thought I had dealt with it – via reiki and positive thoughts and law of attraction etc – now I am with my new man I on occasion feel it in my stomach and find it hard to keep under control.Dont get me wrong its not a possessive thing, just the odd occasion where I feel sick to the stomach. I know deep down its my own mind and self esteem and I work with this daily but wondered what your view on it was or any advice from your way….thanks for your time to read ..have a great day

Em x”

When we are going into a relationship, we are feeling wonderful things and the beautiful emotions build and build – an example of Law of
Attraction!  And then what happens is we may experience fears and
insecurities and other things may come up.  It may be that we are fearful of losing what we have, or that we have a bit of moment to reflect and absorb what has been happening and start to ‘think’ (and the fears and ‘patterning’ come up) rather than continue ‘being‘ in that wonderful feel-good place.

“After people attract something (such as a relationship), they can
sometimes get busy trying not to lose it, which is a very different
vibration to what attracted it to them in the first place…”

Jealousy is a response to thinking that something is yours when in fact, like everything else in the Universe, it isn’t, and you are no ones either.  Other than the fact that you are two souls meeting along your journey.

The discomfort that exists is because you are thinking thoughts that
are taking you out of your flow and from what you want.  And what you
want isn’t just this physical being in your life, but the essences of
what you are experiencing.  Whilst your physical body and mind
experiences this person, your soul and essences are experiencing so
much more and that is what led to the physical meeting.

You can’t be jealous if you are on your path and know that you will be ok. You cannot base your own wellbeing on another’s presence and feelings for you, but on your own connection to wellbeing and flow (which in itself is attractive for others to be around you).

You love them and adore them because, as a free being, you are chosing to be with them, and vice versa. There is no attachment or holding, especially emotionally. Allow them to be free, they will appreciate and love you even more for it.  Otherwise, energetically, they will feel constricted too.  And when someone feels constriction or pressure, little things can start to come in (such as disagreements, arguments etc) which can build.  It is far better to have the space within ourselves and allow the other, and ourselves, to be who we are.  To be fearless in all eventualities and being at peace with them, so we can enjoy our now.

“Anytime we build a strong momentum about something, and we experience
strong emotions or fears to the contrary, it can get pretty
uncomfortable.”

You cannot carve out and separate a bit of the Universe (such as a person) and hold it in statis
forever and say it is yours.  Everything is interconnected and
interrelated, as are you. You wouldn’t want it any other way.  You
wouldn’t want to be disconnected from your flow. It is more important
to you than this relationship or anything else, because it is to do
with your relationship with who YOU are as the spiritual being that is
living this physical life.

We fear losing what we have but remember we cannot ‘hold’ or ‘force’ something.  What we can do is deal with the fears about it.  What would happen if this person left?  Be at peace with that.  Have it so that does not scare you and you can focus your emotional energy on appreciating what you two have together.

Anytime a limiting thought comes up, identify the underlying what fear behind it, and let it go.  All fears are limited perspectives of the Universe.  They imply that you will not be ok as a result of something happening or not happening.  When in fact the Universe is wellbeing and does not place conditions on it, only you do.

Any jealousy or element of control is about one’s fear or lack of security or certainty about having or keeping something that they want, or how they want it. It is an illusion because you can never truly ‘have’ something and keep it static forever and how you want it.  That’s the illusion. And that can be scary itself the first time someone realises that.  But that’s only fear, it is not reality. The reality is you have no need to be scared because you are safe.

The ‘truth‘ is your flow and connection to all that you want, including through this person or thing that you want. Take your attention away from the noises and distractions from fear, and put them on your truth which is your ever-abundant and ever-infinite flow and adulation from the Universe.

How can you ever be without when you realise how much you mean to this Universe?  There was no coincidence in your creation, and nothing would be withheld from you.  You just needed to know how to ask for it – vibrationally.  In realising your connection, you have nothing to fear being without.  It’s like having fears in looking at a blade of grass, and not seeing the whole field.

I received a question about how to make affirmations, goals and mantras work “better”, which stimulated me to write a bit on this subject.  The answer goes beyond the scope of what was asked in the question.

From my other articles or teleseminars, you’ll know my emphasis of focusing on the feeling of what you are doing (and wanting); that is the indicator of your vibration about it – and being a vibrational match to what you want is how you let it into your life.  If you are not connecting with your feelings, you’re not evoking your spirit, which is what we’re here to do after all, aren’t we? 🙂

What many people are not aware of when they use goals, affirmations, mantras, visualisation, or anything else, is that it is not about what you use, but it is ALWAYS about your vibration.  When you are looking to make Law of Attraction work for you, it is about you and your vibration.  What will work for you best will be that which raises your vibration the best, in that moment.  There are times you use a fork, there are times you use a spoon; similarly, you can use different techniques for different things.

“It is about the vibrational relationship between where you are and your desires.  Your emotions are the indicator of that relationship, and what you need to be doing to be closing the gap.”

This is something that I tell my clients and guide them with.  When you are looking to use a technique, it is just a tool for you to work with your vibration, as is everything else – actually, as is everything else in life.  In your experiences in life, you make choices and preferences and decisions – you are always moulding and adapting your vibration in all of these instances.  There is no moment in your existence when you are not influencing your vibration (for one reason, that is what you are: a physical extension of who you are on a deeper level).  Every thought that you are thinking, even the ones not in your conscious awareness, are shaping your vibration and what is coming into your life.

There is so much I can say about techniques, and oftentimes I do, especially in the teleseminars.  On the question of goals, affirmations and mantras, here are a few quick tips about them:

1 – Does it feel good when you think about the goal etc?  If not, why do you have it as a goal?  Because others want you to have it?  Ensure it is because you feel good about it.

2 – If it feels good, how can you tweak the goal (or affirmation or mantra or whatever you are using) so that it feels better?  Can you think of something more to this goal that you can add?  Something else?  More specificity?  A different colour?  More belief in what you can have?  What ways can it feel even better?

3 – If it’s an affirmation or mantra (i.e. “words”), there are certain words we have which are emotionally loaded.  How about “money”, or “soulmate” or “sex” for example.  Find the words that you have that feel the best for you, relative to what you are wanting, and put them in your affirmation or mantra.  Use modifiers to make it feel even better – words that make it feel even better, eg “my palatial mansion”, “my beautiful car”, “the woman/man of my dreams“, “deep peace” etc.

4 – Mantras can be different things to different people.  For some, they may be something they repeat to “get” something (such as a goal).  For others, they may use mantras to create a peaceful mind and be in the moment – it is more ‘state’ oriented than ‘goal’ oriented.  For example, they may repeat something whilst doing breathing exercises to orient themselves in their now.  If this is the case, then be aware of this and choose the words that best orient you in your now and your attention in the direction that you would like to be going.

5 – The goal which you visualise or affirm is relative to where you are at, vibrationally.  As you grow vibrationally and get closer to it, it can mean and feel differently.  Pay attention to your feelings.  You are an expanding being, and as you grow and expand, focus and include the things that feel best to you – similar to as mentioned above about making it feel better and better.

Jay Lakhani:  There is an Abraham quote: If there is something that you desire and it is not coming to you, it always means the same thing. You are not a vibrational match to your own desire.”  So how can you easily achieve a vibrational match?

The easiest way is by thinking of it and from it. What happens for most people is they let other thoughts get in the way. It’s about thinking about something and by the attention to it (without resistance), letting it build; and it attracts more thoughts, and more thoughts, and then physical manifestation.

Playing with thoughts is one way, eg “Wouldn’t it be lovely for me to be with the love of my life?  How would it feel to drive the car I’d love to have?  How would it be to live in the house I want?  How will I decorate it?”  And so on.  It’s just many people get stuck on the “how to” and their beliefs about it being/not being possible, rather than being open to the possibilities and focusing on the envisioning and letting the Universe find the answers, commensurate with your vibration.

Every thought has a vibration. To be a vibrational match to something, have thoughts about it.

Hi Hemal > Many thanks for the kind contribution, really appreciate your effort! Very nicely explained. Thanks again.

I had a very pleasant surprise yesterday.  Lisa Ellwood (she will tell you below how she came across me) tagged me on a note on Facebook that she had written.

A year ago I wrote a post on “Going into the New Year with Momentum” where I mentioned about how, through your perspective, you can have a great momentum in going into the New Year.  I didn’t know until I saw Lisa’s note yesterday, that she had applied what was in that note and (in her words) EVERYTHING she had written had come to fruition even down to the time periods specified.  As she will tell you, she is someone who has had some challenges, including “clinical depression”.

I will paste Lisa’s note and do feel free to share your thoughts and write YOUR answers to my exercise in the comments below.

By the way, on Saturday 9th January there will be a free teleseminar about making the most of 2010 for YOU, keep an eye out for more details soon.

>>>>>>>>>>

Lisa’s note:

My latest New Years Tradition: Going Into the New Year With Momentum

This is a great addition to my New Year’s Traditions.

My dear friend Michelle H. turned me onto The Manifesting & Law of Attraction Page founded and run by Hemal Radia here on Facebook last year (http://www.facebook.com/ManifestingLOA). The timing was quite fortuitous as it was nearing Christmas.

Hemal did a post where he talked about *Going into the New Year with momentum*. In essence, you are compelled to do a lot of self-reflection – never a bad thing at all and especially if you are in denial about taking control of your life and your ability to create the future that you want for yourself. I can honestly say that just about everything I wrote for 2009 came to fruition even down to the time periods specified. Quite profound for one who struggles with positive thinking (being clinically depressed doesn’t help), meditation and visualisation.

Below is the exercise Hemal had us follow. I’ve made a couple of slight tweaks but this is the general format.

MANIFESTING & LAW OF ATTRACTION

GOING INTO THE NEW YEAR (2010) WITH MOMENTUM

1 – Write at least 3 to 5 things that you have Appreciated about this year

2 – Write at least 3 to 5 things (or more) that you are Anticipating/Excited about next year

3 – This time next year, what will you be delighted and proud with? What will have happened? (You can do this for the end of Jan too, what will you be proud of by then?)

(Solaris image by Lisa Ellwood)

This was a request from a good friend to a quote I put up about Growth:

“That is comforting for the assurance Hemal…however, as we expand and grow…those around us will sometimes feel discomfort, which then transfers to us…maybe you could expand on how to handle this aspect of growth” – Henri Coleman

ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE YOU, AND THEM TO BE THEM

There are a few things about it. Firstly we cannot hold our own growth back because on a deeper level we are all expanding, and we do not have to. When we hold our own growth back we are against our own flow and it gets uncomfortable and eventually the discomfort can increase. It’s like pressing the accelerator and the brakes at the same time.

There are no coincidences in the relationships that we have, whether it be family, friends, pets etc. We, and they, came into this life to experience the contrast and the dynamics that we experience. However, we are always at vibrational choice of what we keep and allow in our experience.

Some might say, “Oh move on, you are no longer a match” and that can feel quite cold and hurtful. I don’t agree with that and I believe that if we would like to and choose to (and it IS a choice), we can be with anything or anyone if we choose solely to focus on the factors that we love and keep our attention off the things we do not like (that is what creates the resistance and discomfort and pushing away). Many though are habitually good at looking at the things that are wrong and that creates discord in the relationships.

Look to appreciate the gift that is your growth. See it also as an opportunity to share it with others. Now if others do not see it that way, do not hold it against them, and allow them to be themselves. Give them space to have their opinions as you allow yourself to do the same.

Their discomfort, with all due respect, is their stuff. You can support them and give them love, but it is for them to deal with. It’s like an analogy a good friend of mine uses, “You can’t lose weight for someone else”.

YOU ARE THEIRS AND EVERYONE’S INSPIRATION THROUGH YOUR FLOW

But through YOUR flow and inspiration you can inspire anothers to theirs. Oftentimes people have lost hope or they do not believe things can be a certain way. BE the inspiration and the light for the sake of being it – i.e. for YOU and because it is your flow. Let them choose to resonate with it. At first it may be scary for them. Again, their stuff. But that is part of their evolution and development, and that is also their choice.

Take your attention away from their challenges, put it on what IS good, whether within yourself, them, or anything else. If it feels good, it is getting you to your alignment. If you are in your alignment, you are in your flow and attracting all sorts of wonderful things. Make your focus your own flow, and choose to include or exclude things to pay attention to based on that, make that your criteria.