I thought you might enjoy some quotes about the ‘possibilities in your life’!  You are welcome to share them wherever you like.

I received a question about how to make affirmations, goals and mantras work “better”, which stimulated me to write a bit on this subject.  The answer goes beyond the scope of what was asked in the question.

From my other articles or teleseminars, you’ll know my emphasis of focusing on the feeling of what you are doing (and wanting); that is the indicator of your vibration about it – and being a vibrational match to what you want is how you let it into your life.  If you are not connecting with your feelings, you’re not evoking your spirit, which is what we’re here to do after all, aren’t we? 🙂

What many people are not aware of when they use goals, affirmations, mantras, visualisation, or anything else, is that it is not about what you use, but it is ALWAYS about your vibration.  When you are looking to make Law of Attraction work for you, it is about you and your vibration.  What will work for you best will be that which raises your vibration the best, in that moment.  There are times you use a fork, there are times you use a spoon; similarly, you can use different techniques for different things.

“It is about the vibrational relationship between where you are and your desires.  Your emotions are the indicator of that relationship, and what you need to be doing to be closing the gap.”

This is something that I tell my clients and guide them with.  When you are looking to use a technique, it is just a tool for you to work with your vibration, as is everything else – actually, as is everything else in life.  In your experiences in life, you make choices and preferences and decisions – you are always moulding and adapting your vibration in all of these instances.  There is no moment in your existence when you are not influencing your vibration (for one reason, that is what you are: a physical extension of who you are on a deeper level).  Every thought that you are thinking, even the ones not in your conscious awareness, are shaping your vibration and what is coming into your life.

There is so much I can say about techniques, and oftentimes I do, especially in the teleseminars.  On the question of goals, affirmations and mantras, here are a few quick tips about them:

1 – Does it feel good when you think about the goal etc?  If not, why do you have it as a goal?  Because others want you to have it?  Ensure it is because you feel good about it.

2 – If it feels good, how can you tweak the goal (or affirmation or mantra or whatever you are using) so that it feels better?  Can you think of something more to this goal that you can add?  Something else?  More specificity?  A different colour?  More belief in what you can have?  What ways can it feel even better?

3 – If it’s an affirmation or mantra (i.e. “words”), there are certain words we have which are emotionally loaded.  How about “money”, or “soulmate” or “sex” for example.  Find the words that you have that feel the best for you, relative to what you are wanting, and put them in your affirmation or mantra.  Use modifiers to make it feel even better – words that make it feel even better, eg “my palatial mansion”, “my beautiful car”, “the woman/man of my dreams“, “deep peace” etc.

4 – Mantras can be different things to different people.  For some, they may be something they repeat to “get” something (such as a goal).  For others, they may use mantras to create a peaceful mind and be in the moment – it is more ‘state’ oriented than ‘goal’ oriented.  For example, they may repeat something whilst doing breathing exercises to orient themselves in their now.  If this is the case, then be aware of this and choose the words that best orient you in your now and your attention in the direction that you would like to be going.

5 – The goal which you visualise or affirm is relative to where you are at, vibrationally.  As you grow vibrationally and get closer to it, it can mean and feel differently.  Pay attention to your feelings.  You are an expanding being, and as you grow and expand, focus and include the things that feel best to you – similar to as mentioned above about making it feel better and better.

I had a very pleasant surprise yesterday.  Lisa Ellwood (she will tell you below how she came across me) tagged me on a note on Facebook that she had written.

A year ago I wrote a post on “Going into the New Year with Momentum” where I mentioned about how, through your perspective, you can have a great momentum in going into the New Year.  I didn’t know until I saw Lisa’s note yesterday, that she had applied what was in that note and (in her words) EVERYTHING she had written had come to fruition even down to the time periods specified.  As she will tell you, she is someone who has had some challenges, including “clinical depression”.

I will paste Lisa’s note and do feel free to share your thoughts and write YOUR answers to my exercise in the comments below.

By the way, on Saturday 9th January there will be a free teleseminar about making the most of 2010 for YOU, keep an eye out for more details soon.

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Lisa’s note:

My latest New Years Tradition: Going Into the New Year With Momentum

This is a great addition to my New Year’s Traditions.

My dear friend Michelle H. turned me onto The Manifesting & Law of Attraction Page founded and run by Hemal Radia here on Facebook last year (http://www.facebook.com/ManifestingLOA). The timing was quite fortuitous as it was nearing Christmas.

Hemal did a post where he talked about *Going into the New Year with momentum*. In essence, you are compelled to do a lot of self-reflection – never a bad thing at all and especially if you are in denial about taking control of your life and your ability to create the future that you want for yourself. I can honestly say that just about everything I wrote for 2009 came to fruition even down to the time periods specified. Quite profound for one who struggles with positive thinking (being clinically depressed doesn’t help), meditation and visualisation.

Below is the exercise Hemal had us follow. I’ve made a couple of slight tweaks but this is the general format.

MANIFESTING & LAW OF ATTRACTION

GOING INTO THE NEW YEAR (2010) WITH MOMENTUM

1 – Write at least 3 to 5 things that you have Appreciated about this year

2 – Write at least 3 to 5 things (or more) that you are Anticipating/Excited about next year

3 – This time next year, what will you be delighted and proud with? What will have happened? (You can do this for the end of Jan too, what will you be proud of by then?)

(Solaris image by Lisa Ellwood)

I got inspired to write this from an interaction I had with a client this morning.  This is what I wrote in a status message on Facebook about it earlier:

“About a month ago a client said that she wanted to lose weight but it felt like a bit of a chore and ‘hard work’. She was also looking to be in a relationship. In the last couple of weeks she has found a partner she is *very* attracted to (at the time she couldn’t believe it happened)…who is a gym instructor and she is spending more time at the gym (EVERY DAY last week lol) than ever. Interesting how things happen isn’t it 🙂

Let go of the how, focus on the essences of what you want, let the Universe orchestrate the details, which will be a match to your overall vibration.”

(Relationships is one of the areas we had worked on in helping her get alignment)

ALLOW YOURSELF TO THINK OF THE POSSIBILITIES

When we think of something not happening or not being possible, what do we do?  We tend not to think of it happening or it not turning out how we want to because of our beliefs about it (our beliefs act like switches as to whether we consider the notion of something happening or not), or we have a fear about the situation. 

How about allowing yourself to daydream about how nice it would be if it was to happen instead?  You don’t have to say it ‘will‘ happen (because that can be uncomfortable for some people because they do not fully believe it at the time), but ALLOW YOURSELF TO CONSIDER THE POSSIBILITY.  Just allow yourself to think of it and feel from it and daydream, just CONSIDER THE POSSIBILITY.  As you do that, it will get stronger and stronger.

Allow yourself to feel the sensations of how it would be, without putting pressure on yourself for it to ‘have to’ happen.  By you experiencing these sensations without doubting or ‘thinking’ – i.e. without contradicting, these feelings will grow and build and you will start to see clues of it happening.

What happens for most people is because they do not believe that what they want can happen they disregard the possibility right away and short circuit their flow so to speak, so they don’t even give themselves a chance.   It’s about being gentle and kind with yourself.  Allow yourself to entertain the possibility of what you would like just for the thought of it, just for the fun of it.  That takes away the pressure of it ‘having to’ happen, and you are doing this for fun.

And as you do that your thoughts about it will build and grow and get stronger.  As this happens you will start to get ideas and physical manifestations.  These will act as a reflection of your building consciousness about this and you will also feel more and more certain about it – which means your expectation and belief will grow and your pull for what you want will be even greater and greater.

“When you tune into the possibilites this
Universe can provide you, you will think of yourself as crazy for all that
you were holding back from yourself.”

The thing most people do is they let their doubts and fears come in and short circuit their natural and infinite and abundant universal flow.  There is no limit to the universal energy the Universe is sending you in every moment – and it is all around you – it’s about you letting it in and allowing it. 

Some thoughts you can consider:
– If my life could turn out wonderfully, how would it be?
– If things went right, what would it be like?
– What if things DO work out for me, how would it be?

Let
go of the ‘how’ and the ‘thinking it’ too much.  What we are talking about
is you FEELING from what you want.  We are talking about vibration and
manifestation, not actions or plans or linear and logical
possibilities (there is a place in life for them too, but here we are talking about lining up your energy).

“You
cannot fathom the possibilities for you from what you have been used
to.  Can
you imagine what it would be like if every resource in this Universe –
because you and it are not separate – was responding to
your aligned vibration to bring you what you wanted?”

IT’S ABOUT LINING UP YOUR ENERGY

What many do is they expect themselves to rationally and logically know HOW they will get what they want.  That is what we have been taught as we have grown up.  We’ve been taught to have a plan and a structure and have actions listed out.  Many people even teach the Law of Attraction with this.  That is all very well, I would encourage people to use a vibrational aspect with this.

We are in a Universe that is not just physically full of logic and actions, but also non-physical and spiritual and there is far more that is unseen and we feel from the heart than what we can physically see.  There are dormant capabilities within you and around you.

Do you remember a time when things just ‘clicked’?  When they just fell into place and you weren’t ‘thinking’ too much and just ‘being’?  And you weren’t evaluating, you were experiencing, and things were just taking care of themselves.  THAT’S an example of when you had your energy aligned.  You may not have been aware of how you did it consciously, but you were in a place where you were in the moment and things were happening.

I work with clients with different aspects and often it is about identifying what feels best to them and taking
their attention off the things that do not matter.  Understandably
people have habits of thought they have built up over years and it
is just about practicing a new way.  Just like the client mentioned
above, people can start to see things around themselves in their lives
change.  But you do it for how you feel, the manifestations are natural
consequences.

I hear pretty much everyday from people who have read something I have written or a teleseminar they have heard or in working with me and it has inspired them to think of something differently (and it is a pleasure and an honour to be on the receiving end of it!) and that has brought into their life all sorts of things.  I am hearing these stories everyday and throughout the day and this is happening around you and you will see more and more of it.  There’s only expansion and growth, you – nor anyone else – do not grow smaller.  You will experience more and more of these things.

Regarding the above interaction, it was with a Law of Attraction coach who is very successful at what she does.  From my perspective I just happened to suggest some tweaks and it has changed how she sees things and what has come into her life.

If you’d like to know more about working one-to-one with me you can do so here: Working One-to-One with Hemal.

You may have started out in life with wonderful dreams of what you will be, do or have.  For some these may be rich and vivid dreams, whether in terms of work and career (or finances, and LOTS of them!), love, family, health and living a wonderful and extravagant life.  For others it may be things which are perceived as being more humble and modest, such as working with the environment, helping animals, working with children, helping those in need, etc.

What happens for many is, as they say, life happens.  Sometimes it may be they end up on a path that veers them away from their original dream.  It may be they take up a job or a career that they believe prevents them from pursuing their dream.  It may be that they get married and/or have children, or something else occurs and they find their time and focus taken up.

YOUR DREAM IS ALIVE

Whatever your dream, it never died.  Your dream has always been alive in your vibration and still is to this day.  Your vibration – just like the Universe and the spiritual part of you – always expands, it never contracts.  Even when you think you have done something wrong or made a mistake, you have never grown smaller but have expanded, always.  You are expanding vibrationally in each moment with the choices and preferences you make in your life.

Your dream has always been alive.

It may be that the dream is not important to you in the same way, and that is fine and that is your choice.  It may be that it was something which at that time aided your growth and experience, and now other things are important, and that is fine too.  In likelihood this will mean that you may have other dreams now too.

So, ask yourself:

– When you think about the dream (or dreams), how does it FEEL?
– Do you doubt you can have it?
– Are you scared of it?
– Are you limiting yourself?  Are you from a place of limitation and fear about it, rather than faith?

YOU ARE ALWAYS EXPANDING ON A DEEPER LEVEL

Realise that you are a vibrational being living a physical life.  You, and everything else, are vibration on a deeper level.  The power that goals and dreams give you is what they do to you vibrationally – such as how you expand when you are excited by them – rather than just the physical world goal or condition you are looking to have.  The goal or condition will be the manifestation of you being a vibrational match to it and will be in your life before you know it, when you are in alignment with it.  It will be a natural consequence and manifestation of your vibration.

So, it is not about whether you can have the dream or not, whether you are scared about it or not, whether you perceive (note: you “perceive” – i.e. it doesn’t mean that’s the reality, it means that’s how you perceive it to be, in your thoughts and beliefs) it is possible or not or whether you ‘perceive‘ it will disrupt your life currently.

What is most important – as I say this in other articles, teleseminars and when I work one-to-one with people – is how does it feel?  You live your physical life with your senses but the spiritual part of you that knows everything (and is ‘God’/the ‘Universe’) communicates to you through your feelings.  It tells you what is best for you at that moment by what feels best at that moment.

It may be that you haven’t practiced your dream for a while.  Allow yourself to daydream.  What if it could happen?  What if it REALLY is there for you?  As you think this, from your place of possibility, notice how real it starts to feel.  And ask yourself, how does it feel?

IT’S NOT ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE AT, IT’S ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE LOOKING

You do not have to forsake the conditions in your life currently for your dream if you do not want to.  If you are in a job and need it to pay your bills or have children that you are looking after or are a house-wife or house-husband, take your attention off the ‘conditions’ and put it on how you WANT THINGS TO BE.  If your attention is on ‘conditions’ what are you attracting more of?  (Clue: “Law of Attraction!”)

As you practice your attention more and more on your dreams what will happen is the Universe will send you clues, it can’t not – as you become more of a vibrational match to something you will attract experiences that match it.

As you continue to practice your thoughts on it, you will get more and more reinforcements along the way.  Your expectations and ‘allowing’ will improve and you will see it more and more.

In terms of the ‘conditions’, what will happen is either they will resolve themselves or they will not be the same issue.  Think of it this way, if your attention goes off the problem – “Oh how in heaven can it happen, I have this and this and this and this that stop me having what I want“, and onto the solution – “Oh I would LOVE this and this and this and this!  Oh it feels SO good to think about what I want!  I’m not going to ‘think’ about it and figure it out, I’m just going to feel good about it and let the Universe hear my vibration and show me it happening“, how can the Universe do anything else but respond?

You came here to be creative and to express the beautiful spirit that you are.  Unleash that within you and allow yourself to think of the possibilities.  Allow yourself to dream and to think in terms of “Well if it IS possible then this will feel good and this will feel good” and so on.  You don’t have to figure out the how.  That wasn’t the deal.  You, from your physical conscious mind, were going to make choices and preferences and the far far far larger spiritual vibrational part of you was going to correspond with Everything-Else-That-Is and create the manifestations.  It just got disrupted when the physical part of you thought you knew it all and were God and tried to overshadow the rest of you.  There is far more leverage and ease when you are in your flow by how you ‘feel’ (vibration, synchronicities, manifestation) than by how you ‘think’ (rational, logic, linear).

You are much much, much more than the physical body you see.  Be in harmony with it and let it flow.  The thoughts that feel good (including your ‘dreams’) are the ones that are in alignment with who you are.  And watch the magic unfold.