When you have Dreams and you feel your day to day reality is not in line with them

Kim: I have one primary goal that I want and I have given a lot thought about it and really love the feeling of having it, but my day-to-day work and my thoughts of work hinder me occasionally and I end up flowing upstream with thoughts. Is there a way to stay tuned in and connected all the time, no matter what?

In terms of day to day works thoughts, my thinking is along the lines of no matter how hard people may try to find good feeling places while at their day to day job, it is really hard to stay in a good mood if 1) you are not happy with your circumstances or 2) people around you are only being disruptive and are negative in their outlook. This is why I asked how can one stay connected nearly all the time and just go with the feeling of allowing.

The ‘day to day’ work is not so much an issue or doesn’t have to create discord in you, in fact you could enjoy it, when you think it’s likely not to be around forever as you’re on your way to ‘better things’ if that thought feels better to you.

The Value of Resistance and Contrast

So you are asking if there is a way to stay tuned in and connected all the time, no matter what.  I would presume that to mean not having resistance or ‘contrast’.  Realise that resistance and contrast serve functions in the manifesting process, they enable you to make preferences and choices, they fire ‘rockets of desire’, and then you line up to them.  And you have manifestations, and from those new perspectives (and contrast) you have new preferences and choices.

I’m presuming that it’s not necessarily about staying connected ‘all the time’ but about lining up and staying connected so you can manifest what you want, so let’s work with that.

Making Peace with the Present

You know that whilst you have discord about where you are currently you are not quickly getting close to where you want to be, the solution is to make peace with where you are at. 

You mention the circumstances and the people ‘disruptive and negative in their outlook’, realise that circumstances are a mirror of the vibration that has been given off and the sooner attention is put onto something else the sooner you can let new things in.  I’ll use the diagram from the previous post which illustrates this


So, let’s sooth the vibration of where things have been.
You may have thoughts around the current work such as ‘Oh, you’re getting in the way of my dreams’, ‘As soon as you go I can get on with my primary goal and dreams’ or ‘The people here are just pulling me back’ or ‘The people here are so disruptive’.  Whilst those thoughts can be understandable in the environment, you want to get at peace with that.  Because whilst your observations are on that, you’ll see more and more evidence of it and not allow evidence of you being close to all the things that you DO want.

Can you find something about your work that you can appreciate, or like?  Is there something that you ‘might’ appreciate?  Did the work come to you at a time when you needed it?  Or has helped you to pay the bills?  Realise, in your whole evolution, this work came to you at a time when it was a vibrational match for you.  You may not enjoy it or love it, and that’s ok, but you can be thankful (and I’m not suggesting you’re not).  Kind of like friends, who have known each other a while and both have evolved in their own ways and it is time to move on, and there’s no point holding grudges or ‘bad vibes’ about it.  Make peace with the current work.  If you are able to focus on thoughts about it that you appreciate then all the better.

You might say ‘How can I get at peace with it when I’m still in it?’  You make peace with it, but also realise that for wherever you want to be going, you need to make the emotional journey first, so that it can be reflected in the circumstances you experience.  The only reason this job is still around and not something else is you are a closer match to this through your attention at this moment in time.

Feeling better about the Present

If there are consistent things that keep coming up in your day to day reality that don’t feel good then:

-List them, use them to pivot to what does feel good.  Eg ‘The people I work with are very negative’, pivot it to ‘I’m going to have people around me who are inspirational and I feel energised around’ and then when that’s comfortable then into present tense such as ‘I have fantastic people around me who all contribute so positively to my life

-You can work on finding aspects that you appreciate about
those things or other things, or you could make humour of it

Realise that your present moment is on a continuum, there are things
‘better’ than it and there are things ‘worse’ than it.  Which you
compare it to will determine how you feel about where you are
currently.  It’s all about using the comparisons and thoughts to feel
good right now

-You could for example play a game that every hour (or whatever time frame) you have to find one unique thing in your day to day work that you like or appreciate.

-You could use the future processes I mention in this post where you go out to the future and you look back to now from it, realising that you GOT what you wanted, you GOT your primary goal, and where you are now was a piece in the whole orchestration of it

When you are feeling good and in the moment (and acting from joy) you’re not counting the moments, you’re not hoping or working out how soon you can have your other goals, because you are enjoying the present moment, and ironically you tend to do better and attract what you want quickly anyway.

Using your Desire to Feel Good

So let’s move onto the second part, which is perhaps more directly related to what you asked, about feeling good.  You can find things in the present work that feel good, or you can find things in your primary goal that feel good (which you are) or you can find thoughts in anything else that feel good, but just not contradict it with your thoughts about the present work, that seems to be the key in what you’re asking.  If you feel good and don’t contradict it you’ll get what you want.

If you’re getting ‘sucked’ into not feeling good from the ‘day to day work’ and you feel good about your primary goal, then practice that vibration further and further.  If your vibration is higher about it then the day to day work vibration may not have the same impact.  The way to stay connected more of the time is to practice the vibration of what you want, and as you do that it becomes more and more familiar and more ‘normal’…in fact more ‘day to day’ shall we say 😉  and the momentum (and Law of Attraction) is very firmly in that direction.  If your dominant thoughts are in a direction about what you want then that’s where the momentum is.

Spend more time focusing on what you like about it, the best aspects of it, how you’d like it to turn out, etc.  How would it feel to be in your life right now?  You will find as you have that vibration around you more and more you will notice things around you change, things in your day to day work will be different.  But, your focus is on you feeling good, not looking at the external environment for reference.  The manifestation could be close to happening – often 99% of the work is done before you see it on the physical – and by you checking for it you’re bringing that into your vibration, if there is doubt or uncertainty that comes into it, and it’s not helpful.  Your attention should be on your own thoughts and feelings about what you want than looking at others for reference, impose your intent [on the environment] through your vibration than the other way around.



Using Law of Attraction in a Business Turnaround

Harvey: I run a loan business but I have neglected its internal working in the last two months, this could be out of apathy or laziness but perhaps also my souls is not in the business. I am working with a business coach and he wants to introduce some interesting ideas but what he may not realise is that I am not strong enough to help implement and monitor the ideas. I have not recruited well I think in the past year and I have two girls working for me who may not be right for the job or I just have not trained and lead them well.
Whilst I am hesitant to give the business up I am thinking more about my mental and spiritual wellbeing which I think needs attention at the moment due to years of neglect. I can be a very happy or fearful person and I have a lot untapped and unexplored energy. I don’t know how long i can put my spiritual quest off, understanding my mind and developing my creative and light side.
It’s a big dilemma but i am getting a little desperate although of course I am still coping although waking up early most days and this makes me tired of course. I perhaps need to find good staff or maybe a good manager to run my company whilst I go off and explore, maybe India for example. However the business is quite reliant on me at the moment.
What do you think?
Thanks for your attention and help!!

Not wanting to be around something because there is resistance towards it

…but I have neglected its internal working in the last two months , this could be out of apathy or laziness…

Well this is understandable, when one is feeling ‘resistance’ towards something they won’t feel inclined or excited about dealing with it or being around it as much, whether it is a job, business, relationship, health etc.  Resistance is when you are thinking about something that you don’t want (eg something you are fearful of, or just a thought contradicting something that you want) and through that thinking/feeling you are ‘resisting’ the natural flow that puts you in alignment with the big picture and the infinite resources to where you DO want to go.  A person can tell when they are resisting or allowing by how they feel, resisting will have negative emotion associated – due to the discord between your desire and your belief – where you want to be and where you are – and allowing will tend to feel good, it could be feelings of excitement, joy, love and being thrilled as to what you will do with the fresh canvas of life upon you each day.  Feeling good and bad is a continuum, an emotional and vibrational continuum, and you attract things that are a match to the vibration signal you are giving.

…but perhaps also my souls is not in the business…

We’ll work on this a little later in the piece.  At some point the business did come forth from some creative process as it wouldn’t have existed otherwise.  You can reconnect your ‘soul’ or ‘heart’ to it through your emotions, more on this later.

When you line yourself up you attract those in harmony with your vision, or vision from those already around you

…I have not recruited well i think in the past year and i have two girls working for me who may not be right for the job or i just have not trained and lead them well…

When you reconnect yourself vibrationally to whatever it is you do, you will attract the right people to the job or draw those aspects from those people who are already around and want to be a match to it too.  It’s like when someone is in a relationship and they are considering moving on because of certain traits in their partner.  The best way is to be at peace with those traits and to be at peace about the whole thing otherwise if your focus is on something that you don’t like, your vibration will be active about it, and you will tend to attract those traits in the next partner also or in others around you, you attract more of the same through your focus, in all things.  What you might find is WHEN you are at peace with it and are focusing on what you LIKE about your current partner, you will attract those aspects from your current partner (and others around you), because you’re focusing on that and not being distracted by the things you didn’t like.  Your energy and attention is on the things that you DO like.  Energy flows where attention goes.

All possibilities exist

Whilst i am hesitant to give the business up i am thinking more about my mental and spiritual well being which i think needs attention at the moment due to years of neglect…

Consider a scenario where you can have the business AND your mental and spiritual wellbeing, when you are lined up (desire and belief are in alignment – i.e. what you want and what you believe; and you feel good as a consequence) you can do anything and you have the energy and excitement for it.  Or, you can decide that you just want to focus on certain aspects in your life (such as spiritual), and that is your choice, I’m just highlighting that all choices exist based on whatever choices you make.

There is Harmony inherent in every conflict

…I can be a very happy or fearful person and i have a lot untapped and unexplored energy. I don’t know how long I can put my spiritual quest off, understanding my mind and developing my creative and light side.
it’s a big dilemma

It sounds like someone who has a lot of desires and a lot of things they want to get done but one who isn’t in line with them yet or is experiencing conflicts in doing them.  For example ‘I’d like to do x, but I can’t because of y’ (and the word ‘dilemma’ confirms this).  You can have it all if you are lined up to it, or you can struggle with aspects of it as you move towards some things but your attention is on others elsewhere and there is a conflict, you feel like you are being ‘torn’.

So let’s communicate with the aspects, and work on them lining up so they are in harmony…

Communicate with your desire for your spiritual development, identify what it is, what it’s intentions are, goals are, what it wants to accomplish/achieve.  You could imagine it sitting in front of you, or as a part sitting on your open palm, or imagine it as whatever you like as you communicate with it.  And in the same way communicate with that aspect of you that wants your business to work, perhaps on your other palm.  What are its outcomes?  What does it want to accomplish?  The initial answer might be something like some sort of relief from the recent pressure or tension.  Then ask what’s its long term vision or intention.  Is it to thrive?  Grow?  What is it you want to experience from the business?  Everything we experience in life is a metaphor for something we want to experience, an essence, some intention or outcome or purpose, what is the business’ intention for you?  What does it achieve for you?

Now realise that the two intentions (spiritual and business in this case) won’t achieve anything whilst they are in conflict.  As one strives forward the other will pull it back because it’s in conflict and doesn’t feel it can get what it wants.  In harmony they provide synergy to each other and to the rest of you.  And harmony is just a matter of perspective and intent.

Realise THEY BOTH HAVE THE SAME HIGHER INTENTION FOR YOU, whatever that is, whether it be your wellbeing, growth, thriving.  Every desire and essence within you came into you because it felt it could achieve what it came for, within you, else it would have gone elsewhere – Law of Attraction, like attracts like – so any time there is any conflict, it is important to remember that the two parts are in the same time space reality because they actually have a sameness on a deeper level – this is the same with ALL entities, people, countries, etc, if any are at conflict it’s because they are focusing on their differences than on similarities and aspects with which they can grow together and in synergy.  The similarities and agreements could even be just on the level of existence, that they agree they are better off existing and not interfering with each other, even if they do nothing else, or better still in working together and sharing resources, each have something to offer the other.

So it’s in realising that there IS a sameness that the two can line up, and with an intent not to be in conflict.  And it may just mean agreeing that if they don’t have some sort of an agreement neither will achieve what they want (even if it’s not to have a business and to focus on the spiritual), rather than nitpicking on the details.

How would you like things to be?

‘Lots of untapped and unexplored energy’ is good because it implies strong energy flow.  Strong energy is great when you are lined up to it, but when you’re not it can create quite a bit of discord as the discord indicates misalignment between your desires (summoning the energy) and your thoughts and beliefs (allowing the energy).  You might want something but if your focus is on something contradicting it then you get discord, and your emotions tell you when that is happening.  The type of emotion you experience will tell you the difference between the two as will the severity of the discord.
Some people will have little or not very strong desires and so when their thoughts don’t match up the discord (negative emotion) isn’t quite so prevalent.  However when they are lined up the flow isn’t quite as strong as someone who has strong desire and is lined up.

So I’ve explained many dynamics, I’m going to ask you to work with your thoughts.  I’m going to ask you to list out a few things, and it’s best for this process if you write these; writing focuses the energy, because your eyes are seeing what you’re doing,  your self-talk is focused on the words than on anything else, and you’re physically focused on writing; your whole neurology is involved.< /p>

If all possibilities were open to you, let’s say God (or the universe or whatever you want) sat next to you and said How would you like things to be, what would you say?  Make a list.  And write as much as you like.  And it can be as general or as specific as you like, the key thing is that it feels good.  It might help to start general and then go more specific, there’s less resistance when something is general, it’s ‘softer’, and you can get more and more specific.

Creating your Reality, rather than regurgitating what-is

can stagnate (relationships, job, health, businesses, etc) when they don’t go
so well and we focus on ‘what-is’ – i.e. the present perceived reality, and
because that’s where our focus is we create more of the same and more of the
same and so on (see diagram below), the solution is to use your imagination and creativity and
think and FEEL from it, it’s being a visionary not a ‘regurgitator’

When in relationships if people keep focusing
on the problems things get worse and worse as they create more of the same, but
if they focus on what they once loved about that person or what they love now,
or WHAT THEY MIGHT LOVE about them – anything that feels good – that’s what flows energy.  The key thing here is not what the reality
is or what it was or might be, it’s that the thought feels good, and that’s what flows
energy. All possibilities are open in
the universe and the universe is abundant
, it is rich and there is infinitely
more potential than most people could contemplate, and you gain access through
your feelings and the flow of energy and your imagination
, there is infinitely
more power in that than through actions or speech or other means. The universe is vibrational and you gain
access to it through your connection with it vibrationally, your feelings, and
your emotions are a guidance where you are relative to that

This gets you away from thinking how things have been or are (‘what-is’) and gets you to start thinking of WHAT YOU WANT, when you do that and let your thoughts focus on it more and more and more you flow the energy to it, you start getting ideas and you are lead to more thoughts of the same which lead to more ideas and inspiration.


You’re not trying to rationally solve the situation with it, you’re using your imagination to create the thoughts in your mind that feel good, they raise your vibration, from the new vibration you have possibilities open to you you didn’t have before.

Remember, the key is write things that feel good.  You might not find it easy at first because your mind has been focused on the situation at hand and you need to practice thinking of what you want.  So you could put softening statements at the start that pace where things have been so you can then lead on to the thoughts that feel good.  For example:

-Well, I’ve had this situation for a while and it’s felt uncomfortable but I’d like to solve it
-It’s not been easy in the past and I still get stuck, but I want to find something that moves this on
-There are more possibilities available than I might have thought
-I may not know for sure the infinite possibilities that the universe can show to me, but I’d like to find out…
-Out of all the things the universe can do, working with a business must be one of the easiest, relatively speaking
-There are many things I’d like, whether in this business or outside of it in my life
-My spiritual and mental wellbeing are important to me, and I can feel I have strong desires for them.  Strong desires are good
-I’d like my business in a place where it is taking care of itself and perhaps even growing and I’m spending my life doing the things I love, including doing the things I love about my business

And so on….

Tapping into what you loved about it in the first place

You may want to ask yourself, when you started the business what were the things you loved about it?  What inspired the creation of it?  If it was something like ‘money’ or ‘making ends meet’ that’s fine too, EVERYTHING HAS POSITIVE ASPECTS TO IT.  The universe is meaningless until you give it meaning and that shapes the reality you experience and it perpetuates until you change the meaning.  What can you appreciate about your business?

-It came to me at a time when I needed money, or making ends meet
-This business has been good to me over the years.  It may have had its challenges and may still do, but it’s something that has been good to me
-This business deserves better
-I know there is wisdom and guidance coming to me about how great this business can be
-This business has so much potential
, it can go places, it can offer a lot of value

An analogy about reconnecting with what you loved about it in the first place

When people are in relationships what often happens is they fall in love and everything is wonderful (and they may or may not be aware of lovely synchronicities happening around them, as they’re most likely in a higher vibration) and they’re focusing on all the things they love about the other person.  And then they might notice one small aspect they don’t appreciate in the other.  And then they’ll ponder it, dwell on it.  And what happens if you dwell on something – anything, whether positive or negative?  By virtue of LOA it gets bigger.  And then it’s not so small, it gets bigger.  And they dwell on it.  And it gets bigger still.  Then they find they have arguments, and there is more tension around the place.  And then they find they almost can’t not get into an argument. 

This may be similar to your business where when you look around you see things that give you stress and tension.  The solution is to practice taking your attention off those things that do that, and practice your attention on things about it that feel good, it doesn’t matter what they are, anything.  That way you are ‘allowing’ and not ‘resisting’.  You could even focus on things outside of the business that feel good, the key thing is not to get into resistance about the business.  There could be 999 things wrong with the business but you could focus on one good feeling thought you have about it, and hold your attention to it (for at least 17 seconds) without contradicting it and another thought will join it.  And hold it for another 17 seconds and another thought will join that, and so on. And you build the momentum in a positive direction.  What will happen is you will start to feel more and more excited about your business, you’ll enjoy being there, you’ll enjoy doing more with it, you will have creativity and inspiration and you’ll be inspired to do things.  And your business will thrive.  Which will also mean you will feel even better about it, it perpetuates itself, but you use your imagination to get it going when initially things weren’t how you wanted them.

You have all choices open to you

Having said all of the above, when you get to a place of inspiration you will also have the choice to move on from the business, and that is up to you.  But by getting yourself into a place of allowing you enable yourself to make the best choices, the wisdom and the guidance will flow to you, whether it be through ideas you get or through ‘coincidences’ or synchronistic experiences, for example you might see a newspaper article that mentions something or catch a TV programme or you might overhear a conversation which is just right for what you’re looking for.

Your vibration will determine the people you attract

You mentioned about attracting a manager or staff, when you are feeling good about your business you will attract better people in relation to your business than you would otherwise.  Remember, like attracts like.  If you are thinking of your business as a problem and it being difficult, you are likely to attract people that will think from a similar point of view, or have a similar vibration about it.  If you are excited about this opportunity you have, you will attract people with whom you can enthuse with.

If you keep thoughts of :
-Well, at the moment the business is not taking care of itself, but at some point I think it can
-With the business taking care of itself I’ll have so much time to myself, and the business can thrive too
-I know there are plenty of good people out there who can be very successful with business, and I know my business deserves that
-This can be such a win-win, I’ve created an opportunity here with my business for someone to come along and thrive with it, I can have all the time I want for myself, and my business is better through all of this too

Do you notice the improvement in feeling and perception?
And you have to practice these thoughts and live FROM them (not necessarily the ones I’ve listed but those that are relevant for you.)  You may not get a phone call the next minute (or you might!), but you will certainly feel better in thinking these thoughts and how you feel about your business will be better, and you can let what manifests in the physical take place.


Above I have mentioned quite a few approaches to this, but the key thing is to feel less and less bad about it, regardless of the presently perceived reality, and get onto feeling better and better.

One other note on this:
Oftentimes when you’re coming to work with experiences from a place where things weren’t positive you may initially be looking to get relief, in that initially it’ll be about feeling less worse, less stress etc, and as the ‘negative’ feelings get less and less you can focus on ‘feeling better’ and more and more positive emotions.  A lot of talk is made about ‘feeling good’ however sometimes when someone is feeling very negative they may not be able to contemplate such a thing as ‘feeling good’ and it can be about feeling ‘less worse’ and lessening those negative feelings and then getting onto positive feelings and amping them up, and feeling better and better.



More on ‘How I Manifested my Car’ post

Thank you to all of you who have been letting me know how much value you are finding in my words and in this blog, it’s lovely to hear from you, thank you!

This is more on ‘How I Manifested my Car

Hi Hemal,

read your blog on your Jag manifestation, which is great by the way,
and wanted to ask how you feel now compared to how you felt knowing it
was coming?

It’s just my experience of the ‘knowing’ the car was
coming was actually the best bit – it felt great – because the car had
come in to my experience but I had no means of paying for it. I can
look back now and identify that the’ knowing’ it was going to be mine
was the most thrilling part. Because having it feels different, very
good but different. That OMG this could be mine feeling is hilarious as
you dare to imagine and pretend you are driving it. Would you agree
from your experience?

Now I have it, it’s like second nature, now I look at the Aston Martin DB9 and get excited!!

Hemal: Yep I know what you mean, it’s the flowing of energy which is the important part, not the
thing you’re after, they’re just kind of metaphors for you to flow
energy towards lol

It’s the moulding of the thought and the energy that’s meant to be the fun part and the manifestation a consequence of it

Amie: Thanks for confirming what I felt into an even simpler and clearer understanding of this process!



Creating Realities – What are we responsible for?

To what degree are we impacting and influencing the creation of others’ realities?  Are we creating our own reality, and therefore responsible only for
what exists in our lives, or others too?

Where does our responsibly begin and end?

(the question was longer but I condensed it to the above, which sums it up)


The ‘responsibility’ begins and ends with yourself,
and through that is your connection to everything and everyone else

we are creating our own reality, and therefore responsible only for our
view or perception of all that already exists in our lives?"

each person is experiencing from their point of Self, you cannot step
into another’s shoes or care for another totally, because it will
always be THROUGH your point of Self, it will always be from that
perspective, through the perspective that you have chose to come to
experience as who you are.
Yes, we are responsible for our own
experience as is everyone else, and those with matching vibrations come
together to co-create. The vibrational universe takes care of the
of who, what, where, when, how etc, you nor others do not
need to think about that
, you just need to focus on what’s important to
you and what you want to experience.

Essentially you write the play
you want to experience and the universe will orchestrate the actors and
parts within it. That’s when synchronicities and the flow line up with

You cannot create in another’s experience, and vice versa,
however by thinking of another’s experience you can affect your own
connection to source, god, universe, whatever you want to call it, your
ideal connection is with You, god, universe, etc, and THROUGH that
connection you can positively impact others.

It is through
your connection that others (who want to be a match to it) will be
inspired, those seeking a teacher will attract you, those not seeking
one you will not rendezvous with

Your responsibility
is to yourself and your connection. If you were not to be a samaritan
for someone, they will attract whatever they are a match to, i.e. the
universe does not ‘need’ you or anyone to do anything, there are an
abundance of people who’d show up even if you didn’t – the universe IS abundant – based on what was being Asked by the vibration of the person
asking. Your job is to follow your joy whatever it is. There is no
limit to people willing to do things for others, but it is best done
from a place of connection or joy, because when you’re not, and you
help another, you’re not helping their connection to the resources
available to them either



Useful links

Ebooks & Products

The Universal Law of Attraction group on Facebook

(You might need a Facebook account to access it)

Many of you will know Kim Doyal from her being co-host on my Teleseminars, you can find her at http://www.theselfhelpchick.com

My good friend Graciela channels The Essence and you can find out more about them at http://www.theessenceofall.com

Kate Strong is my friend in New Zealand who does readings via her website http://www.katestrong.com

My dear friend Maja Milosavljevic has a site where she has information
on being an Empath and where she does readings from, you can find her
at http://www.thesmilingsoul.com

My lovely friend Kathy Hadley has a blog on Law of Attraction and is a coach herself Kathy Hadley Life Coach

Nina Ferrell has a blog on Abraham and other Law of Attraction topics, she also created an Abraham Hicks group on Facebook




The blog of Faydra Rector-Sargent who very much resonates with the Abraham viewpoint and has very lovely posts, some of which I have quoted on this blog, we share very similar viewpoints


Malathy Badri’s blog on the Laws of Universe


The blog of Kenneth MacLean, he is the author of the Marketing with Spirit links you’ll see on the blog and also created the Law of Attraction Explained Movie


Priscilla Palmer’s blog on Law of Attraction related content


Eva Gregory’s blog on Law of Attraction and links to her other sites


The ever-lovely, published author and my good friend Dora Crow’s blog on encouraging children to actively participate in advising each other, for them to tune into their own guidance


A blog on personal development, personal growth, motivation, psychology etc

A site with lots of Abraham quotes, I have a friend who regularly uses it and ‘borrows’ quotes from it




Synchronicities and being in the Flow by lining up with the Universe

This was a post I wrote in the ‘Synchronicity and Being in the Flow’ group (http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=6547252561
) on Facebook, after an interaction with my friend Anima Blue who’s the Admin for
the group. She sent out a message to the group and in it she mentioned
that she had come across the Law of Attraction before but it had never
felt right for her until her and I interacted about it recently and she
felt it was the right time for her to follow up on it. Here’s my post:

message to the group yesterday made me think about what she said in
terms of how she had come across Law of Attraction before but it hadn’t
felt right until her and I talked about it.

It’s great she
mentioned ‘it didn’t feel right’ (not great because ‘it didn’t feel right’ but because she was in tune with her feelings!) previously because your feelings are a
guide as to what’s right for you and what’s not. If you tap into your
feelings (which connect to the big picture, universe, god, whatever you
want to call it) you can have no end of synchronicities and being in
the flow
. Oftentimes, before trusting their own feelings, people tend
to look outside of themselves, and that’s how they don’t line up with
the massive power just waiting to sweep them to where they want to go.
There is no lack to the infinite stream just waiting to take you where
you want to go
, and it gets easier and easier when you are in the
stream because your focus will be on your connection because the
synchronicities happening all around will keep reminding you of it.

back to the feeling thing again lol. Your emotions are an indicator to
where you are vibrationally
, and it’s through your vibration you
communicate to the rest of the universe
. It’s more powerful than any
words you could say. When you follow your joy in the present moment (or
as good as you can), what feels good, you are lining up with the
orchestration happening around you, and ‘the flow’

So going back
to what Anima said, if something doesn’t feel right, that’s ok, know
that there is no end to the universe’s ability to find what’s right for
, but it starts with you making a positive intention about it. If
you focus on what you don’t like and what’s wrong you’ll get more of
the same. If you focus on what your positive intent is – I say intent
because you might have something in front of you you feel isn’t for you
but you can have a positive intent about whatever you are looking for,
regardless of the form you have in front of you currently – so you
focus on what your (positively stated) intent is, without contradicting
it, and the universe will match more for you, even if it’s what you
were previously looking at in a way that will feel good and be easy for
you to let it in! 😉



Abraham Hicks group on Facebook surprised me!

On Sunday (Jan 20th), completely out of the blue, I received a message from Facebook saying I’d been made Officer (and Admin) on an Abraham Hicks group on there.  This had been done by the creator of the group, Nina Ferrell.  We had met online very recently and built up a lovely friendship, but I had not expected this lovely surprise! 
If you’d like to join the group you are welcome to go to


On Mon Jan 21st I sent the following message to the group:

Hi Everyone,

I thought I would write you a message and say hi
and introduce myself! Some of you already know me and I’ve interacted
with you.

I had a complete (and pleasant) surprise yesterday
when out of the blue I received an email from Nina saying I’d been made
Officer (and then Admin) on this group! I had not expected that at all,
and I was honoured and very appreciative that it did (it was also my
birthday too lol)

I’d just like to say feel free to contribute
to this group, let us know what you like, what you want, and feel free
to contribute with your thoughts and your experiences. There might be
someone just waiting to hear experiences that you’ve had which might be
perfect for them, WHEREVER you were at. So feel free to post on the
forum…there’s a saying….Ask and It Is Given… ;)….and we’re not
saying that we’d necessarily always have the answer, or that someone
else might, but the clarity comes in the ASKING, and the answer can
come from somewhere unexpected. A clarity can occur in formulating your
question and a boldness from asking it.

I have a blog as of a
few weeks ago so feel free to check it out (link below), and happy
manifesting! If you’re not getting the results you like then you have
to ask yourself, with groups like this, are you Asking…? And lining
up? This group can not only be a tool for you but your experiences as
resources for others, whether you’re completely new to this or have a
bit more experience (or a lot more), you always have something of value
to offer

Best wishes,



How I Manifested my Car by lining up to it Vibrationally


As some of you are aware I recently acquired a very lovely car which I absolutely adore.

This piece isn’t short, I’ve had quite a few requests from people for this post and I thought I’d add detail and you can take the best bits which are useful to where you’re at


You close the gap vibrationally between where you are and with what you want
Although I’d been thinking about this type of car, a Jaguar, for a while, I think the main movement has been recently because I’d been in a good feeling place about it.  But that’s generally how it happens.  You start with an idea or a notion and as you focus on it it builds and builds (momentum, Law of Attraction, etc) and gets stronger and stronger and stronger in terms of your vibration and you’ve done 99% of that before you see it on a physical level, it reaches a critical mass and it manifests.  At that point you’re also not ‘looking’ for it because your consciousness is very much in a place of the PRESENCE of it, i.e. you’re not looking on the outside for it because you ARE it or you’re living FROM it, in terms of your feelings and vibration.  And then when it happens it feels very logical – I’m not saying it’ll necessarily happen logically or rationally, it can happen in an infinite number of ways – it just ‘feels’ it’s the next logical step because that’s where you are vibrationally, and all part of the way things are.


It’s not about what you ‘do’ but about how you feel
Below I have listed some of the ways I lined up to it vibrationally.  You don’t have to ‘do’ all this, I’m only listing these processes for your awareness but it’s not what you ‘do’ it’s how you feel.  I mention the processes I did to feel a certain way but you can use other ways, you can use visualisation, whatever you want, the key thing is how you feel about what you want.  Also, if your desire is strong you’ll want to feel it in many ways anyway, and you may want to do processes BECAUSE you’re enjoying it.

It’s always about YOUR VIBRATIONAL RELATIVITY to your goal, i.e. your relationship between where you are now and your goal, vibrationally, and closing that gap with your thoughts and feelings and it manifesting on a physical level.  Your emotions are a consequence, a symptom of the energy you’re flowing, and energy flowing is your connection to the big picture, that’s what connects you to everything you want and more.


Some of the things I did….
Ok, here are some of the processes I did in lining up vibrationally.  Remember, it’s not about what you ‘do’ but where you are vibrationally (how you feel about what you want), so you can do more than this, less than this, different than this, what’s important is how you feel


  • Something I did a while ago is I went to a showroom and test drove a Jaguar (I have a friend who really likes to do this when she’s after a car, she likes to get the feel for it by doing this)
  • Put myself on Jaguar’s mailing and email list, so I was receiving lovely  photos of cars that I liked
  • I got a postcard from them (Jaguar) saying they had an open day and if I brought my license I could borrow their cars and drove them around town or where I liked and return them.  I drove five cars that day, I took them round and got experience of the types of cars and engines and the feel for them.  I was learning about what the different specifications meant, the engines, the features inside the car, etc.  Of course, from a manifesting point of view what was key was the experience I had IN them and how it felt
  • I went onto the Jaguar website and looked into the different specification models they did, I printed out the photos, the colours, the photos they had on their site.  I’d focus on what I’d printed and imagining driving it and keep my attention on it for a while (so I got used to the vibration of it)
  • I sometimes used the photos as desktop backgrounds on my computer.  I also printed photos out and put them on my walls.  This was something I was playing with and hadn’t done before, the benefits of doing this – i.e. putting pictures or reminders (it doesn’t have to be pictures) of what you want (you can photocopy bank statements and ‘alter’ the numbers to more attractive sums for example) is that during the day your attention can drift onto various things (however your conscious attention is not necessarily the most important), and this is a reminder for you.  When I say reminder it doesn’t have to be overt and conscious, it can be a unconscious and subliminal awareness, and is helpful in keeping you lined up vibrationally and not going off to focus on something not in alignment.  The way to tell is how you ‘feel’ with it, and ask yourself questions and tweak what you do based on how it feels.  If it’s not noticeable for you then you can try other things.  Use your own feelings as a guide for what works for you than on what anyone else says or does.

You can also put cheques (or other things) written to you for significant amounts of money on your fridge, or on your bedroom wall (so you see it when you wake up), or post-it notes (‘stickies’) on your bathroom mirror.  Of course, these things can be done at discretion based on who you’re living with, etc!  But you get the principle, and with a bit of creativity you can do things in a way that fits with your lifestyle and environment and works great for you

I have a friend who puts up bank statements, cheques and post-it notes all over the place, on her fridge, bedroom, near her computer, etc, she easily manifests all the money she wants.  She taught her teenager son how to think of the car he’d like and imagine it specifically and it’s the same for him too, he can think of the type of car or job he’d like and within a month or so he’d have it.

I remember reading a story many years ago about Jim Carrey how he said when he was supporting a baby and they were living off a bed on the floor in a single apartment in downtown LA, he was doing three comedy clubs a night, he would write a cheque to himself for $10million for ‘Acting Services Rendered’ and he’d forward date the cheque by a few years.  He said it made him feel better to visualise such things and “It wasn’t about the money, it was about where I’d be if I was making that kind of money.”

  • I looked to see if there were videos of it, so I could feel being inside it
  • My brother runs a car spares shop and I’d call him up and I’d ask him about cars and particularly Jaguars and I’d enjoy interacting and learning about the specifications and what engine types meant what and so on

What were the chats with my brother doing?  It was keeping my focus on what I wanted, it was allowing me to clarify and hone what I wanted (focussing the energy) and talk about what it would be like when I had it (vibrational alignment)

  • I’d go online and read reviews of cars I was looking at.  It was helping me get clarity on the type of car I was looking for and what I liked.  If I had any questions or doubts about something (resistance) it was allowing me to get clarity and either remove the doubts because they were unfounded or get clarity on wanting something else, it was allowing me to get specific and focused and ‘pure’ in my thoughts (i.e. not have contradiction in them).  Aligned, focused, specific energy is powerful when your beliefs are in line with it.


The key thing is I was having fun and enjoying the process.  It didn’t matter if I got the car or if I didn’t, and in fact I told my brother this.  I said to him I was happily enjoying interacting, learning and knowing the nuances, this was FUN!  I was enjoying hearing about how lovely a luxury car is, how it feels, how it responds when you push on the accelerator, the features it has that ‘feel good’, the luxuries it provides, etc etc.  I would look at pictures and see the wooden panelling and feel the comfortable seats.  I would see and feel myself wrapping my hands on the steering wheel.  I’d hear the purr of the engine, and so on and so on
I didn’t think why is it not here yet, I just carried on with life and enjoyed thinking of the lovely aspects of this car

I was making the most of the now moment, whatever it was

I wasn’t going ‘Is it here yet?  Is it here yet?  Why is it not here yet?’  (i.e. resistance, doubt, questioning, etc)  The reason I wasn’t doing that is because I was happy in my present now moment, I was enjoying the thrill, the experience of it.  The manifestation is a consequence of that, rather than chasing the manifestation.  Something I’ve always said over the years is focusing on enjoying playing the game and letting the score take care of itself.


I loved my previous car which I’d had for 7 years and if her (I know I said ‘her’, she was my friend!) and I were to be together for longer then so be it.  In fact, when I part exchanged her for the Jaguar I was saying goodbye to a friend  lol  My point in this paragraph is being at peace with your present moment.  Remember it’s never the ‘reality’ of a situation, it’s always your perception of it (and there are an infinite number of perceptions you can have about it, abundance!), be at peace with the way things are and excited and eager for more (like the new car)

  • I visualised driving it, what it would be like to have it, I got specific, I saw what I’d see, the beautiful interior, the steering wheel, I’d feel the seats under me, the leather and fabrics, the beautiful touches, I’d hear the gentle purr of the engine, and so on.  I allowed myself to experience it.

When I started thinking about the logistics of it, such as where I’d park it (I don’t have the gated estate with the drive just yet, it’s on it’s way) and the ‘logistics’ of it I told myself to focus on the car and feelings of the car and ‘trust’ the logistics will get taken care of; LOA will manage everything that is a vibrational match, so if I’m at peace and feel good about everything then that’s what will happen.  You just need to manage your vibration and everything else gets taken care of.  (Yes, that means the how, where, when, who, what if etc etc)

Another key was I really wanted it, which meant there was a good energy flow (you summon energy through your desire, you ‘allow’ the energy through your beliefs and in being lined up to it in terms of your emotions).  The car I was going to buy was around 30-40mins drive away but I didn’t think twice about going up there to view it and again to buy it
If you’re thinking about the how or doing or not doing certain things then in likelihood you’ve either got resistance about some things or don’t want it enough, when you want something so much you’re focused on the PLEASURE and DESIRE


Ok, so what happened?
I was happily enjoying the fun of experiencing this (and other goals) and I remembered how it’s important to follow your joy in the present moment, as that is the way your higher self (or universe or god or whatever you want to call it) wants you to go.  Just before Christmas (07) I asked myself that question and I felt like I wanted to play a video game.  A recent video game….about racing cars lol.  So I played it for about a day and really got into it and enjoyed it.  Starting off with a small car and after winning races and earning prize money swapping it for bigger and better cars, and also selling previous cars.  I ended up with a Mercedez Benz amongst other top cars.


A perfect rendezvous is orchestrated
Anyway I was enjoying playing the game, not questioning why I was doing it other than that I was enjoying it (it was the holiday season after all lol).  Pretty soon I felt I’d played the game enough* and put it aside (the present moment joy was focusing on other things, the benefits of playing the game had been obtained).  That afternoon I decided to pay my mum a visit.  Now this was a spontaneous thing.  I was actually going to go slightly earlier but delayed it as I took care of some work.  As I left my place, about 200yards away was a beautiful Jaguar, the type I’d been thinking about (but not the one I ended up with)…and for sale!!!!  And at a good price!!!  I took down the number and proceeded to mum’s place.  On my way back the car was gone, it had only been there long enough for me to get the number.  So I called up the number that evening and spoke to the guy and wrote down the spec of the car.  This was great, it was getting me to think in terms of the specifics of the car, with the implication of me having one.  I was enjoying the interaction and the ‘playing’ in the whole process of this manifestation.  The guy said he was looking to sell early in the new year and we could talk then.

Remember I said I was going to go to mum’s earlier but delayed it as I took care of some work?  He also said that they actually lived in another town and had only been there visiting a friend very briefly…which is when I happened to walk past (having delayed it instead of going earlier)….

(*At the time I was following my present moment joy in playing the game, however after seeing the car on the street I later thought that playing the game was getting me vibrationally lined up in driving a lovely car, and buying and selling cars and it being easy, but essentially being behind the wheel of a great car and how it FELT, I tend not to ‘think’ too much and stay more intuition oriented but it felt that that was one part the game playing had played.)


When your desire and belief are lined up, the answers keep knocking at your door

Over the next week or so I went online (now with the belief that the car was close; I’d seen one, it had manifested!  And price was close too) and looked into cars and gave my email address to sites so I’d receive email notifications.  I was looking up cars, reading about them (this was when I was chatting with my brother too), getting into conversations with people about them and so on, I was munching (energetically!) on this.

I also found during this period that I was seeing Jaguars and luxury cars everywhere, far more than I had previously been, I’d look out of the window and I’d see another.  This was telling me I was vibrationally close.

There were other cars (for sale) I’d seen and I was finding I was seeing better and better deals than the car I’d seen on the street, as lovely as that car was.

Very soon thereafter, one Friday I received an email notification for a car which looked very attractive and I looked into it and this is the one I got.

I did my research on it, including checks, and it seemed very good.  it turned out that this was a better car than the one I’d been thinking about and saw that day (better model, better engine, better reliability and much more), AND it was at a significantly better price!  I did an online check and I was getting the car at a very very very good price relative to what it was worth on the market.  The interaction with the seller (not a private seller, he sold a few cars) was an excellent interaction, it all worked out very magically and very easily and was fun.  I even sent an email to the seller afterwards  saying thank you for the excellent experience I’d had in working with him (he had even got the car taxed without charging extra for his time)

The car and the whole experience worked out better than I might have planned or thought about, by being lined up and using my imagination to imagine how good it could be, and then thinking better and better feeling thoughts, allowing the universe to match my vibration.

I had some people working on my property last year doing decorative work and one of the workmen saw a postcard I had from Jaguar on the sideboard, he said ‘Do you think you’ll have one or are you dreaming?’  I said to him ‘You can have it by dreaming’ 😉
It turns out the car I got is better than the one on the postcard he was referring to, a better model, a better engine, a smoother car, etc etc etc

It took me a while to write this post as I had to think back to the various events and co-events and things that I’d done, I had to track back, make some notes and put together the post from it.  I tend to be more in the moment and enjoying the experience and not ‘thinking’ too much, but getting great ideas and inspiration.  When you’re in the flow and in the moment time flies by because you’re so aligned and things come easily and quickly.




How do you use Law of Attraction when you don’t know what Money feels like?

I posted my Manifesting Money post on a forum and I had a reply from someone asking me my opinion on what financial freedom would feel like.  My reply was that it was better to focus on HIS current experience, describing mine would give just that, i.e. my words and essences, the key would be tapping into HIS.

He replied back saying perhaps a better question for him to ask would be: "How do I create an experience I’ve never felt before?"

Well the premise of your question is that you need to know how something feels to experience it. So that would mean someone wanting to attract a ‘soulmate’ for the first time in their life would need to know how it felt? And so on…?

The answer lies in using the imagination. You are here as creators, to expand and grow and flow energy. it’s never about the goals it’s about the energy (‘life force’ etc) they get you to flow, that’s why they feel so good, the ‘desire’ is life force/energy.

The other thing to remember is that you are aware of the concept of financial freedom, so you have some awareness about it and you have a desire for it otherwise it wouldn’t have come up. So in your now position right now you already have aspects of this and that’s what you do, you focus on what you do have, or even pretend – that too stimulates thought, it’s never whether a thought is real or not it’s about how it feels.

So what’s the best thought or feeling you can have on the financial freedom scale right now? It may not be ‘financial freedom’ (or it may be!), but a better thought on that scale?

And as you focus on those thoughts (or thought), and as you focus them and hold your attention to them, without contradicting them, you will start to attract other thoughts that resonate with it, that are a vibrational match, and from that new vantage point you’ll have thoughts available to you you didn’t have previously, and so on….

So it’s never about feeling the end state (eg financial freedom) right now necessarily, it’s constantly asking yourself better feeling thoughts, in whichever context and whatever the goal and relative to your now position, because that’s all you can work with, the present moment (because that’s all there ever is! 🙂 ) You can use an anticipated future to stimulate present moment thoughts.

If people were only thinking/feeling thoughts they ‘knew’ they could only regurgitate, rather than using their imagination to expand their thinking and experiences in new ways.

Other ways of stimulating the the thoughts from yourself, you could ask yourself:
-What ‘might’ financial freedom feel like?
-If I knew what it was like what would it be like?
-If I was to pretend to have it, what might it feel like?

And remember to focus on the thoughts and hold them and not contradict them, milk them for the energy they provide you



Getting into the JOY of the activity

This was a reply I wrote in a group in Facebook to a budding author who was finding frustration in writing her book.  She was a full time teacher and frustrated that her first novel hadn’t been taken on to be published yet and in despair that her agent had suggested her writing another novel instead:

My reply:
Get into your novel writing such that you enJOY it so
much that time flies by and you’re not wondering about publishers and
agents and books but loving what you’re doing so much, practice your
mindset/vibration towards it such that it’s the joy that thrills you,
that is your reward.

The other thing I’d add is realise the
universal stream is infinite. That’s why you don’t need to ‘push
harder’ to make it ‘go faster’, you just need to line up with it (in terms of thoughts and feelings being in line with it) and
the momentum (including Law of Attraction) will speed it up, and it
will get easier and easier and more and more fun. The results will find
you and you won’t be looking for them, but of course your reward would
be the thrill of it anyway… 😉


Hi Hemal,
Thanks so much for your words. They are so encouraging and
you are right – enjoyment is the key. Feel free to post what you wrote
in response to my thread – the more people who can benefit from what
you said the better!

Ruth x