Do you need to change your physical suroundings to attract what you want?

I just started reading The Secret, and I understand the Law of Attraction clearly.
What I don't understand are the physical aligning of things. I don't
know what I need to do with my room to attract the things I want. For
example, I want a husband. Do I
need to align things in that particular room for that to happen? 
What should I do to attract love and all these wonderful positive
things humans long for?

The book mentions that you should change your surroundings as if you
have your soulmate with you. For example: there's a story about a lady who stopped taking up
the whole space of the garage, and left some space for her potential
soul-mate's car to park in her garage.

So my question is: Is changing my surroundings a strictly important action to take in
order to attract my soul mate?

To answer your question – no!  You do not have to change your
surroundings or anything necessarily, it is about your thoughts and
feelings – hence your vibration about it.  And as a result you may/will WANT to make certain changes – such as your surroundings or by taking actions or anything else – because they feel good and inspired,
not necessarily because you 'have to'.  So the 'actions' are a consequence of how you feel rather than them being forced necessarily to 'make it happen'.  They are a natural progression of your feelings and your building vibration rather than something 'forced'

Changing surroundings or taking actions may lead to a change in one's vibration, the key IS the change in vibration, so – and oftentimes the easiest and hence most efficient way – what you can do is the practicing of the thoughts and feelings of what you want and that will bring in the new vibration and the consequent physical reality

Softening your Vibration about a Decision Made

Here is an interaction from the comments of the "Everything you Experience is for you to Have What you Want" post.  It was a question Pat asked and I thought others would value it so I've pasted it here so it can be more visibly seen.  I've edited it a bit and added some additional comments

"Around January 2007 my husband and
I made a decision that affected me deeply (moving to another country),
and which I now regret. I cannot reverse it now, and I feel guilty,
remorseful, and depressed. I keep wishing I could turn the clock back,
which of course won't happen. I'd love to believe everything will be ok,
and attract the right things, but I just cannot. Any words of wisdom?"

Hi Pat,

You are in a situation that does not feel nice and you are looking to see what possibilities there are.

Start with the situation at hand, look at the things that feel
uncomfortable and look to 'soften' them. So you might say you are not
enjoying the country and find aspects that aren't so bad about them,
rephrase or reframe things such that they feel 'softer' rather than the
harsh way they've been perceived as previously.  It is never about a situation but your perspective on it, and that determines your vibration about it and thus your physical experience. 

As you soften how you see something the resistance will decrease and you will attract better feelings thoughts and feel better too.  Feeling better is a sign of alignment towards who you really are, from a spiritual point of view, it's alignment towards everything that you want

So as you soften your vibration you will attract other
thoughts in line with that and so on. As you do that you will find soon
enough your reality will change, and at the very least how you see your reality will have changed, in gentle subtle shifts. But it starts with gently softening
how things have been

You can say to yourself:
– I don't enjoy how things have been, but things have happened and I can try to make the most of them

I feel guilt and am depressed about it, and I can start to gently look for things I might appreciate because I know that will improve how I feel and is on the way to things changing, whether it be that my physical reality changes or that how I see my physical reality will change
– I can look for things that have come about through all of this which
may be of benefit to me, even if it's being clear on what I don't want.  I know there are things I have not enjoyed, in fact detested, but I am also clearer on what I DO want
– What I DO want is….

And work with building those thoughts, practice them, imagine them, spend time on them.
Just imagine if things could be a certain way, how would they be?  Don't
think you are trying to create something, just focus on these better feeling thoughts and practice them.  Doing this will raise your vibration and in time you will see things
around you shift, they can't not. If your vibration changes, what is
around you will (almost seemingly magically) shift

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Everything You Experience is for You to Have What you Want

Everything on this physical platform is for you to have what you want.  You may think the challenges and 'hardship' you experience…'Oh why does it happen to me?'…you may think you were the unfortunate one for whom it just doesn't work out, the one that has to 'make do'…  

Realise that everything you get and everything you don't get serves as a vibrational platform.  It is like you are standing on the shoulders of a giant from your new perspective; from the thing that worked out, or the thing that didn't work out.

You always see things from new eyes.  Whether it be going back to a country, a relationship, a company that you worked for, or anything else.  Each time you EXPERIENCE something your vibration grows – whatever the outcome. You can never go back.  You will always see it with new eyes.  You are always 'more'.  And that's what you came here to be.  And your physical is (/will be) a match to your vibration

Know that each time you don't get what you want there is a building desire for what you DO want, and the discomfort that you feel is an indication that you are not lined up to it in your thoughts and feelings.  The stronger the disparity the stronger the 'negative' emotion.  But if you are to use your emotions as guidance, as guidance that you are getting closer to what you want or further away from it, based on how you feel, you can then work on getting yourself to a better feeling place and thus more in alignment with what you want and thus the manifestation of it.

So as an example something has gone wrong, or something has happened how you don't want it to be – and you feel terrible.  When feeling something as strong as that usually the first step is to soften it.

So you might say:
-This is so bad, why oh why is this happening (pacing the experience)
-I realise that it's not quite how I wanted things to be, and this realisation is my first step (a bit better)
-I realise inherent in everything – good or bad – is the desire and the energy to HAVE WHAT I WANT (feeling better)
-It's not the end, I know there is much more to come, and as soon as I get off feeling bad about this I can line up to what I do want
-What is it that I DO want?  How would it feel when I have it?  
-What are the details of what I want?  (get into more and more specifics, do scripting – script out how things would be, role play, practice using your imagination)

And you are on your way to a better feeling place…

Oftentimes when certain things happen, whilst we have our attention on what we don't like rather than what we do, we are attracting more of what our attention is focused on.  So even though things around you (on the physical) may be appearing a certain way, how do you want things to be?  Can you imagine it?  Can you FEEL IT? How deep can you get into that reality?  

And of course as you do that and your vibration adapts to it, it gets easier to think the next better feeling thought and so on.

It can sometimes take the physical a little while to adapt to your vibration (as quickly as you 'allow' it through your good feelings), so keep your vibration on how you want things to be, REGARDLESS OF WHAT IS HAPPENING AROUND YOU. Do you want to create more of 'what already is' (by your focus on it) or what you want?  What vibrational signal are you offering RIGHT NOW IN YOUR LIFE?

Feel free to share and add your thoughts, experiences, tips in the comments below

Have a great day

Fine Tuning your Law of Attraction Skills & Some Advanced Techniques, this Saturday!

The content for this coming Saturday's (Aug 16th) Teleclass includes:

  • Applying NLP techniques with Law of Attraction
  • Using the Power and Perspective of ‘Time’ in Creating your Desires
  • Common problems experienced by people in Applying LOA (and their solutions!)
  • Answers to the questions YOU submit!
  • And as always Much Much More!

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Some excerpts on Abundance, Money & Relationships from last Saturday’s Teleclass


  • Abundance is around you, everywhere. The Universe can’t not be abundant, it is inherently abundant, infinite and unlimited
  • You’re letting the Universe reveal the abundance to you that’s here.  Remember that what you want is always here.  All you’re doing is turning the unseen into the seenEverything you want is around you
  • What the physical illustrates is not what is possible but just a projection of the physical mind.  The Universe is your canvas, the artwork you create is as good as your expression of it
  • There is never-ending expansion and growth, NEVER-ENDING


  • Raising your financial set point, just like anything else, is by practicing your vibration about it.  It feeling better and better is a raising of it
  • The things you want – and their essences – help line up your desires to attracting them, practice the vibration of these BEING in your life and you HAVING them.  If you are from the place of them BEING in your life it is much harder (and less likely) to be on the lack side of them


  • See the things, including in yourself, that you are looking for.  In having vibrational familiarity with what you are looking for you will see it more and more [including in others]
  • Ensure the partner you are looking for is an expression of how good you feel (rather than compensating for how you feel)
  • Most people live their lives trying to fix the reflection – with action or by trying to change the physical experience – than working with themselves through their vibration.  There is leverage in working from the vibrational level and consequently the action/physical level will ‘reflect’ the changes made
  • You want your energy lined up (about anything) not split
  • When you work on your alignment you change your relationship with everything.  You are the focal point, it’s like when you change a lens you change everything reflected from it

Law of Attraction: Abundance, Money & Relationships in this Saturday’s Teleclass!

“You are the focal point, when you change the lens you change everything reflected from it”

The content for this coming Saturday’s (Aug 9th) Teleclass includes:

  • Tapping into the Abundance around you
  • Lining up with your essences of Money
  • Can you ‘Attract Someone Specific’?
  • Thoughts on Attracting a ‘Soulmate’
  • And much more on ABUNDANCE, MONEY & RELATIONSHIPS plus answers to the questions YOU submit!
  • Examples of working with processes
  • Practical exercises
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