Do you ever find yourself out of ‘synch’ with yourself? Do you find yourself sometimes pulled in different directions, perhaps having mixed emotions about the same thing, or not quite sure what is important to you?

On yesterday’s Manifesting Excellence call (the audio of which is accessible in the archives there) I talked about why this could be happening and what to do about it.  I will share some of the aspects of it here and if you’d like more of the context around it you can access the call.



You are a collection of thoughts, emotions, beliefs (collections of thoughts), identity (more collections of thoughts!) and so much more.


In our lives we ‘choose’ (even if it is unconsciously) all sorts of thoughts, emotions and behaviours to fulfil intentions (even if at the time the intention is unconscious and outside of our awareness).


For example someone growing up early in life in an uncomfortable situation with their parents or siblings, or someone later in life in an unhealthy relationship situation, may choose to have ‘anger’ as a protective mechanism.

However what happens later in time when they are out of the early family dynamic or the relationship situation and the anger is no longer needed?  What if they are then around friends or a new relationship and this anger manifests itself in an unhealthy way?

This is what I talked about yesterday – that behaviours, thoughts and emotions we have can become outdated and out of context and then become not only unhelpful but can potentially also be counter-productive.



All behaviours, thoughts and emotions we choose are with an intention in mind, even an unconscious one (I shared on the call yesterday, and more next week, on how to access this).  Over time the context or situation may change and the thoughts, behaviours and emotions that we believed once served us may not be necessary any more – in fact they can be counter-productive.

This applies behaviourally and also when someone is looking to manifest what they want.  If you are having thoughts of your past or anxieties about losing your job or that your partner is not being loyal or money worries or concerns about your health condition, in likelihood it is counter-productive to positive outcomes you may be wanting.

Realise that everything has a behavioural (or thought or emotion etc) side to it and an intention.  A behavior taken on at one point for an intention may get separated from the original intention or the behaviour may not serve that intention any more, like the examples mentioned above.

Another example is someone who eats chocolate (behaviour) because it makes them value and feel good about themselves (intention).  But time goes by and as a result (in a simplistic model of this, putting aside any other contributing factors) they are now gaining weight and looking very different and the behaviour (eating chocolate) is now incongruent with the intention (feeling good about themselves/valuing themselves).

It is the same on a thought level.  The reason you have not (yet) manifested what you want is you have thoughts, consciously and unconsciously, which are incongruous with where you want to be.


What thoughts, behaviours and emotions do you currently have that do not support you?
What was the original intention when you took them on? 
And where are you now heading (intentions about your present or future)?

Share your thoughts and questions in the comments below.


If you’d like to know more about this and access yesterday’s call you can download the audio of it by clicking here to access Manifesting Excellence.


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  1. Posted April 14, 2013 at 12:19 pm | Permalink

    I’d like to think I’ve gotten rid of most of those thoughts. At least I can’t come to think of any right now. As for behaviors, there’s procrastination, snacking, letting my husband get to me etc.

    I’m trying to work on those. I want to change to a more healthy and productive lifestyle. Chronic pain makes it take longer though.

    • Posted April 14, 2013 at 8:54 pm | Permalink

      Thanks, Linda.

      You may find parallels with some habits/emotions and when they go you may find benefits physiologically/energetically.

  2. Posted April 14, 2013 at 12:21 pm | Permalink

    You must have read my mine (somehow) Hemal, because I’m feeling a bit out of synch, myself. This is a very interesting bit and very helpful!

    • Posted April 14, 2013 at 8:54 pm | Permalink

      Thanks, Amy.

      Aww…I hope you are fully in synch and back in your flow very soon :)

  3. Posted April 14, 2013 at 12:49 pm | Permalink

    What was the original intention when you took them on?

    What a great question, which has me wondering….

  4. Posted April 14, 2013 at 4:10 pm | Permalink

    I’ve been very, very out of sync with myself lately, and this definitely gives me a lot to think about. I have to dig deep and find the original intentions, and see if the thoughts and behaviors are still serving me, and then how to change them so they do serve me.

    • Posted April 14, 2013 at 8:56 pm | Permalink

      Thanks, Gwynne.

      Do feel free to be back to share any thoughts or discoveries if you would like to. Wishing you the best in being back in your flow soon.

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