Firstly, Happy Valentine’s Day!
At the weekend I received an email from a former client of mine, Tiffany Kay. Last year, we worked on various areas of her life, including relationships. I knew the dynamics that were in play and offered specific advice and processes (as well as those that she would create for herself too) that she could use which we would interact about in our sessions.
You see, I know what happened…Tiffany is getting married this year! So I thought you might like to know about her story. And so I asked Tiffany to write it in her words and I would tweak it and share it with you here…
RELATIONSHIPS HAD ALWAYS BEEN A CHALLENGE FOR ME
“Relationships had always been a challenging area for me. I know that I always had high expectations that the “right” relationship could be deeply inspiring, fulfilling and supportive, I just wasn’t able to manifest the quality of experience I was looking for.
I discovered the Law of Attraction through the work of Gill Edwards, which led me to study the teachings of Abraham. Although this was enlightening and changed my whole perspective on life, I couldn’t seem to apply it in practice. There still seemed to be something missing, I just didn’t know what “it” was until I connected with Hemal Radia via Facebook. I was regularly inspired by Hemal’s posts and particularly how he helped to clarify the Law of Attraction principles an in easy (and often effortless) way.
CONNECTING WITH HEMAL
This led me to contact Hemal about his one-to-one service and we worked together for a number of months to help me to apply the principles of creation and manifestation to my life. I found Hemal’s insights to be incredibly beneficial. I could take a particular experience and work through it with Hemal’s guidance to really understand how the mechanics of the Law of Attraction meant that I was not lining myself up with what I wanted.
One of the most significant revelations for me was the realisation that what was missing from my relationships was me. I came to understand that I was not creating the relationship I wanted, I was creating the version of me that would be living the inspired relationship. That’s why Hemal’s book “Find You, And You Find Everything” is so aptly titled.
For the next few months, I focused all of my energy on developing the type of inner relationship that would allow the external partnership to manifest. I treated myself with the love, kindness and respect that I would want with a partner. My Saturday nights became my own “date night”. I would stay in and treat myself to a DVD or a hot candlelit bath or something else that felt indulgent. After years of dreading Saturday nights, they became the most special time of the week for me.
WANTING TO MEET MY SOULMATE
On my birthday in June last year, after another near miss relationship had painfully and abruptly ended, I made a decision that I would no longer settle for anything but my soulmate and I set an intention that I was going to meet him over the next twelve months, before my 40th birthday.
I enlisted the support of my best friends as external monitors and gave them permission to challenge me if they felt that I was doing anything to distract myself or that wasn’t in my highest and best interests and aligned with meeting “The One”.
I wrote out a “spec” describing in detail what my future husband would be like. I have a beautiful box that my friend gave me called “My magical creation box” and I put my wish list in there.
Pretty soon, I started to notice changes in my life. I would see couples out for a walk and holding hands and kissing and my heart would leap with joy. I went to bed at night and would dream of my future husband. I reached the point when the anticipation of my lover-to-be felt as real and exciting as if he had actually shown up!
As part of my intention-setting and following a suggestion from my best friend, I signed up to an online dating service. For me at that time, it was purely part of putting the intention out there. I wasn’t “expecting” an instant result, but I was to get to be pleasantly surprised.
On the first day of my membership, I got an ice-breaker email from a guy on the site. We exchanged emails and he seemed great.
Due to logistics and childcare, it took us about 6 weeks to get together and meet up. I liked him immediately but I found myself holding back and not wanting to “rush into things”.
On our third date something really bizarre happened. I was sitting opposite him having a drink and this voice behind me, clear as day, said “You really like him, more than you think”. I turned round to see who had said it and as you can probably guess, there was no one there! It was my inner guidance speaking to me.
When I reflected on what was holding me back, I realised I didn’t want to give up my special Saturday nights. I found that hilarious. Now I had actually “man-ifested” what I wanted, I hadn’t updated my model of how much fun shared Saturday nights could be.
Things progressed really quickly after that and within a couple of weeks we were discussing moving in together. When you find someone who is completely easy to be with and totally compatible, you just know that it is right and it just seems like the inevitable next step. Our conversation moved quickly onto marriage, we got engaged just a few weeks later. Tim and I are now planning our wedding for 26 August.
As I reflect on the path to my inspired relationship, I really do understand that the real journey was developing my strong inner relationship that allowed me to create what I wanted on the outside.”
Do let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
In her new book, Tiffany shares the secrets that she learnt along the way, not just from her own experiences but with her clients too. She has recently entered this book into the International Next Top Self-Help Author competition. You can find out more about the book and vote for her in the competition at “Love to the Max ~ Creating Inspired Relationships That Last”. Every voter will receive relationship resource goodies worth nearly £100, as well as every vote counting and helping her progress to the next round.
Hemal specialises in bringing out the best in his clients and getting them to the results they are wanting. To find out more about working with him and to book, go to Work One-to-One with Hemal.