Are you transitioning from the ending of a relationship?
At the moment I am working with quite a few people in the process of transitioning from a relationship and making the move as seamless as possible, sometimes with children involved too.
If this is something that resonates with you, I thought you might enjoy some thoughts on it:
7 THOUGHTS ON TRANSITIONING FROM A RELATIONSHIP
1 – Just because this ended, does not mean something beautiful isn’t around the corner. This has created space for something else, at the very least for yourself and who you are…and from there, all possibilities are open
2 – There can often be shame and guilt involved, especially if there are children. Realise, your children are here because on a deeper level they chose to come into this life. What you want them to experience in the future and the direction you want their lives to go is a choice that you make.
3 – You may feel sad about it having ended…if it was an unhealthy relationship, consider how much sadder you might have been if it had continued…
4 – With some relationships you feel you can’t live with your partner and you can’t live without them. Identify the factors that push you apart and deal with them. Or else, the pattern will go on and either you will resolve it or there will come a point when the inertia is strong enough for you not to want to continue the relationship.
5 – You may feel that this was your ‘soulmate’ (or words to that effect) and you ask yourself how can you continue without them, even though it was an unhealthy relationship. Read that last sentence again – particularly the words “unhealthy relationship” – and ask yourself if this really was your ‘soulmate’. See the previous point also (4)
6 – If you felt that it was a ‘soulmate’ relationship, that it was a healthy relationship, you were rejected or turned down and you are wondering how will you find someone like that again, there are a few things to be said on that. Firstly, you allowed yourself to love and to immerse deeply in an experience with someone else. Give yourself credit. Next, realise it is an abundant Universe and there is someone else out there who will make you feel that way and more (it’s true), will adore you, AND wants what you want too.
7 – There may be ‘noise’…whether from the partner you are leaving or from others around them or you. Don’t let it distract you. Make decisions that you are congruent with. You will have to live with them. Do not be scared of making the wrong decision; you can only make the best decision you can at that moment in time. If fear wasn’t a factor, what would you do? This puts you more in touch with your spirit.
Bonus – Realise, that no matter how bad it may seem and no matter how scary it may seem, it will get better. This phase will pass and you will enter a new phase. The choices, including your thoughts and feelings you nurture, will influence the new phase that comes.
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