Despite What Happened, Your Life Will Be Even Better

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Many have been through some form of major experience, whether it be in having to move home, losing a job or a business not working out, a divorce or relationship change, a bereavement, or some other personal matter, and then found that it is not easy to ‘find themselves’. 

What can also happen after a major incident, besides the life change, is the carrying of emotions and any beliefs and perceptions as a result of this experience.

So someone comes out of an experience where they might feel lesser for it, perhaps having lost something on a physical level – whether it be possessions, finances, or a part of themselves.  As well as any potential ‘scarring’ they may have experienced, and being worse for wear.  Does this seem familiar?

Not to worry if it does.  The rest of this article will focus on the remedy of it. 

YOU ARE MUCH MORE THAN YOU SEE, AND MUCH MORE THAN WHAT HAS HAPPENED

My book talks about us being much more than the physical body that we are.  You are divinity in physical form.  You are energy.  And so much more.

All your desires and wants are already in form energetically, just not in physical form, yet.  Just because you have been through something traumatic, it does not mean anything has changed.  What has changed is your relationship to those things as a result of your beliefs and perceptions because of what you have been through.  Those thoughts of doubt that you have, they create a discord between where you are and where you want to be.  The more you doubt yourself, or have fear, or other thoughts incongruent with your desires, the stronger the emotional pain that you feel and the stronger the indication that you are off-course.  Move towards what feels less worse, and then towards what feels better.

Painful emotions are an indicator that you are off-track.  They are not here to punish you.  They are an indication, a guide, as to the direction to your light.

When you berate yourself and beat yourself up, notice how it feels?  And at other times when you are kinder to yourself and forgiving and allowing, notice how that feels?  The better it feels, the more you are facing (and heading in) the direction you want to be.

It is not what happens but your perception of it that affects you and your life.  And thus then also creating the possibilities in your next moment.

 

No matter what has happened, no matter what may appear to be ‘damaged’ in physical (or emotional) form, it does not need to affect you or your life.  This is an abundant Universe with all possibilities.  Everything is fluctuating as energy and all possibilities exist.  You literally mould the reality around you with your thoughts.  When you have doubts and fears, they are projected into your reality.  When you have an assuredness, that no matter how, things will be fine, and you genuinely feel this, the way is more likely to be easier. 

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The best vibration to have is not one where you are imposing on the Universe to do something for you, but one where you have a knowingness of your own divinity and wellbeing.  The Universe corresponds to the vibration that you offer – whether it be in reflecting you being of ‘need’, or in reflecting the knowingness of your power.  Two different vibrations with different reflections from the Universe.

 

It may seem that you have lost things dear to you – whether it be a home, a business, work, loved ones, children, or others.  Realise that nothing is ever lost and the connection is eternal.  You may not be together in physical at this moment, and there’s nothing to say you won’t be again, but put your focus on your forward path. 

WHAT YOU WANT DOES NOT REQUIRE PHYSICAL RESOURCES TO START

The vibration of looking at the past and perceiving ‘loss’ is not as conducive to you attracting what you want as looking to the future and knowing fresh possibilities are ahead (including with the same people, if you so choose).  The possibilities are there, and they enter your life as quickly as you create the space for them.  They do not necessarily require physical resources, they start with you creating the energetic space and your alignment for them.  Then they happen.  And in your building awareness and confidence, more come.

But when you look back and focus, whether consciously or unconsciously, on what is lost, you are offering the vibration of loss, and this creates an energetic barrier between you and what you want.  The barrier is as strong as your emotion is about it.

Realise what happened has actually served you in that you have responded by growing on an energetic level.  You now just need the alignment on the physical level in your realisation of your divinity and that all is (and will be) well. 

TAP INTO THE PLAYFUL, CREATIVE WONDER WITHIN YOU

So realise, no matter what, all possibilities exist.  Remember that playful wonder when you were a child of getting to create and build again.  We often forget this, and often don’t allow ourselves this because we think we are too old or that it’s not possible to create again or that we do not have the resources.  These are ALL beliefs.  The Universe is a malleable energy that responds to your thoughts.

Play with the creative wonder that all possibilities are (and they always are) open to you.  What would you do, be and create?  What do you get to do?  How?  With whom?  Do this just for the sake of raising your energy.  Do this consistently and long enough – without doubting or fearing, as much as possible, and notice the physical manifestations that occur in your experience as the shoots of recovery.

The Universe never forgot you and has never not loved you.  You only created the separation through your feelings of unworthiness, hopelessness, destitution, and anything else which is far, far, far away from the joyful, loving creator that you are.  Life can be difficult sometimes.  But within you is an inner spirit and glow, and a love, which when you radiate from within, lights up the life you experience.  The intention of this article is to remind you of it.

Remind yourself of what is worthy about you.  Of what is valuable about you.  Of what is lovable about you.  Of what is priceless about you.  When you start seeing it, the Universe can start reflecting it back.  See yourself as a unique aspect of divinity.  There will never be another like you, ever.  Bask in that place and live from that place.  From that perspective, all that seemed painful will change.

Life is like a river.  Where you put your attention and energy now will influence what flows to you next.  Old waters will pass.  New, fresh waters will enter your experience.  You have choice in what you experience.  You choose by what you feel and expect.

 

There are free resources and links at http://www.hemalradia.com, as well as Hemal’s Manifesting Excellence Group Coaching programme and Working One-to-One with him.  Free Chapters to his book “Find You & You Find Everything: The Secrets to the Law of Attraction” are also available.

“Battling with an Ex”

Thanks Hemal for taking the time to respond to my comment, that makes me feel really good :)

I have been trying soo hard to be positive and think good thoughts, and i know that we create our own reality but all I am wanting is to be happy and my ex and his entire family are not going to let me be. In fact, it seems that if it’s obvious that I am happy they seem to go out of their way to make me miserable. I just went thru a 2 yr custody battle and won (without an attorney non the less isnt that awesome!!) That was one day i truly felt the power of positive thinking because I went in there and told 100% the truth even though I could no longer afford an attorney and WON!!

But it seems this win has lit a fire under them and now they are trying 10x harder to make things difficult for me. I’m talking EVERY SINGLE DAY there’s either something popping in my inbox from them, prank calls, prank text messages, something coming in the mail, its really getting me down and I’ve even started to gain weight from it all and you know how that is on us women, that is making me even more depressed lol!!

So, I guess what I am asking is, how do I manage to maintain happy and positive in spite of the constant attacks? I certainly don’t think I am bringing this on myself am I? It’s making me miserable and I am already slipping into a depression which is what my ex wants me to do. I fell he just won’t stop until I am destroyed and I know you cant tell from not really knowing me but I am spiraling fast :( Any words of encouragement will be gratefully appreciated.

Thank you again for taking the time to read this and for your lovely daily posts, they mean so much to me, more than you will ever know!!

Much respect,

Shannon

REPLY:

Hi Shannon,

Firstly, I wrote a post on my blog about a year ago which may resonate with you,
As a Single Parent How do I Handle my Ex?

My sense/hunch is that [by your attention to it] you are getting sucked into a fight so to speak. You are focusing on winning this battle and in doing that your attention is in pushing against them and hence you are attracting more of the same, that is just a sense on my part, but you will know best.

The thing to ask yourself is what are you doing all this for? The answer is probably to do with your child and your life, how would you like things to be?  Focus on the positive essences about that (rather than on a battle – which implies being in a battle and attracting more of the same), the things that are important to you about it, regardless of your ex and his family. Take your attention totally away from them and make it about what YOU want and what feels good to you.

Would you be ok with you getting what you want and them getting what they want? That may not be feasible or possible, I’m just asking the question in terms of would you be at peace with them having what they want? Don’t make this about what they get or what they don’t get, make it about the things that feel good to you and are important to you, regardless of them.

Because if you are having the emotions of a scrap, then regardless of them, if they go away then you will attract someone else to fill that space to match the vibration you are giving out (to have a battle). Make it about the essences that feel good – such as the beautiful life that you will have with your child, the things that you will do etc etc – i.e. make it about YOU and totally about YOUR reality, and then others can be drawn to it that match it.

I think the reason you get down is to do with with your attention on them rather than the attention on you.  And of course when you think about them there are emotions which are unpleasant and suck you in…and you think more about it…and it gets bigger, and so on.  Then you have manifestations such as the things that they are doing. And it may not be easy and of course things like ego and pride may come into it, but allow yourself to step away from that situation. Realise anything in life is about YOU, not about anyone else. As you have focused on them and the things that they have been doing it may have angered you or saddened you and of course it created more attention from you on them and it wasn’t allowing you to let it go out of your life.

The way to do that is to envision a life that you would like to be having when all of this is over and feel it now, thus that things can then orchestrate in line with that.  Put the same emotional emphasis to what you would like than on where you are leaving.  What is dominant in your vibration is what you head towards.

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