For a few weeks a friend of mine and I had been talking about creating a group on Facebook and we came up with the title of the Universal Law of Attraction, along with some other friends who I’d want to appoint as ‘Officers’ on the group.  I had said as I was busy on this blog and various other projects that I wasn’t sure if I wanted to create it but would be happy to contribute to it if someone else created one.  I had also done an intro for this group if it went ahead.

A couple of mornings ago I got home from the gym and saw this group had been created!  And my friend had put my photo on the top page of it! 🙂  (I was a bit humble about it at the time but I’ve gotten very used to it)
She said to me she wanted me to keep the picture on there as I embodied the spirit and the essence of the group, this is something I had said to her recently, for me what I do is about the message and the creation aspect than anyone or any teachers, it’s about people’s own divinities.  There is more information about this on the group.

So if you’re on Facebook and/or you’d like to check it out, click here or click the pic below

In time I may perhaps create a community here or something else
community related even linked to from here,
we shall see, it will depend on what I sense the Asking is and what is best overall, and if you have thoughts and ideas on this feel free to let me know.

So if you’re intending to use Law of Attraction to attract ‘more of the same’, it helps if you’re thinking of….

What You Want

The Universe (and your mind) doesn’t work by exclusion it works by INCLUSION, so you don’t think of the things you don’t want, you THINK OF THE THINGS YOU DO WANT.  If I said to you don’t think of a blue elephant in a pink tree, you had to think about it to ‘not’ think about it didn’t you?  The Universe (and the mind) cannot ‘exclude’ anything you give it, so think of what you want.

Whenever you think about something, whether it is something you want or don’t want, your vibration will reflect that.  The Universe works by inclusion, by what you include in your thoughts and vibration, whether it be something you want or don’t want, it will match your vibration of whatever you are thinking about.

So, you don’t say "I don’t want this, I don’t want this, I don’t want this" etc, you say "I want this, I want this, I want this, this and this and this, and oh this would be so nice" and so on, and practice the habit of doing that, of thinking of WHAT YOU WANT, and Law of Attraction – ‘Universal Manager’, God, Source, or whatever you want to call it – will take care of the rest.

It’s like the dating game, now we’ve heard people say "But (what a fine start that is lol, you know after a ‘But’ you’re going to get something that’s not wanted) I don’t want this and don’t want this and this, oh no, can’t have that," and we say yes, but WHAT DO YOU WANT?  As you focus on what you want, and not contradict it (with ‘don’t want that’) you attract more thoughts like it and more experiences like it and the momentum is in that direction, that IS the Law of Attraction – you attract more of the same.

So you might meet someone who doesn’t quite ‘fit’ in every way and so you say "Oh this Law of Attraction doesn’t work, I got this this and this and this and this but I didn’t get this, it just doesn’t work" so you get back onto it and tweak and adjust to what you DO want. That’s what life was meant to be, a continual never-ending stream, ‘you never get it wrong’…

The Process that is Life

You have experiences…
Including things that give you an indication of what you don’t like…
Desires are born from those experiences, which initially you’re not vibrationally aligned to what you want as at that stage they are usually about what you don’t want….
These create your preferences for what you DO want.  That’s why it’s called ‘contrast’, it is giving you perspective to make choices for what you DO want
And then it’s your job to get up to speed with what you DO want, by thinking thoughts, feelings FROM that place and being and living from it, vibrationally at least….
And the actions will be inspired as a consequence of that, you will be at the right time right place or will do something that later brings it to you, far beyond what you may consciously have be able to plan…

So….you will have acquired that which you want…
Thus creating a new vibrational platform for new desires, there will be new things you don’t like and like before, from this new perspective more preferences will be made and desires set…
You will line up to these desires too just as before…
And you will acquire these…
And so on….

Your Real Journey

Now whilst it may seem it was about ‘acquiring’ and ‘having’, your real journey has been the process you have been going through in having desires and lining up to them, that will have been a journey in itself for you and on a vibrational level you will have expanded, as will the Universe through your expansion.

You are Always Creating New Platforms, New Perspectives

So, you have desires and it’s your job to line up with those desires with your thoughts and emotions and that creates a new vibrational platform from which there will be new perspectives and choices and vantage points that weren’t there before.  Don’t you think when you make your first million you will see things a bit differently?  It’ll be a new perspective, a new platform?  With new desires and preferences emanating from you?

Or when you have your soulmate?  Or when you have your body how you want it?  And you will have new desires from there that you couldn’t have had before because this is a new perspective and you will have new things to line up to, and it continues, and that’s what life and the creation process is meant to be about.  It’s not ‘Oh I’ve made it, now I don’t need to do anything ever again.’  Your purpose here on the physical IS the creation process, the universe WANTS you to expand to your desires and it expands in the process too, you are meant to have desires.  When you don’t you will find there is not a lot of energy or life flowing (isn’t there a statistic that when many people stop working and they don’t have things to look forward to or do that their life expectancy isn’t so high?). Your purpose in life is joy, the details of that is up to you, you have freewill and choice in that.  Your desires and wants are what flows life through you

Milk the Feelings of What you Want

Going back to the title of this post, focus on the things you want and you like, pick them out, like a shopping catalogue.  So if you have people around you whose company you are not enjoying, pick out the things you like about them, or if that’s not easy, pick out the things in your life you are liking, and build from there (it will grow and grow, when you think a thought and hold it you attract more of the same).

If you are in a job  you don’t enjoy, find the aspect you DO like, or once liked or what was so good for you at some point, perhaps it provided money at a time you needed work?  This appreciation will be different to a vibration of lack.

As you pick out things you like, do focus on them, play with them, use your imagination, play games with them.  When you have the money in the bank that you want what will you buy?  And what will it be like? Milk those thoughts for emotional and vibrational value.  FEEL them.  When you make the most of the now, even in just your thoughts and feelings and without changing anything or anyone around you, all sorts of possibilities open up….

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"I find your profile and website both interesting and inspiring, thank you. I am also a fan of Esther and Jerry Hicks' works and The Law of Attraction. In one of their books, it has a section on LOA and then a part called The Art of Allowing. For some recent months I have been following LOA and learning a lot about 'allowing', particularly with a few people that are close to me that share completely different beliefs and values. I have learnt to accept them for who they are and love them unconditionally. But, recently one particular person has been extremely negative, stressed and angry. Seeing as I spend quite a lot of time with this person, it is really hard for me to watch them and 'allow'. What do you suggest I do? I have been meditating on the situation, asking for guidance and focusing on a peaceful, loving, relationship. and sending love and healing to this person when i can.

Have a wonderful day
Love and light."

REPLY:

It sounds like you are 'tolerating' than 'allowing', it's a subtle distinction.  On some level there is that element of 'that which you do not like' in your vibration. So one thing you can do is soothe it such as:

-Oh I know that this person can be unbearable sometimes, but they have so many other traits which I like about them
-I know there is a reason why they are in my life and why I’d like them in my life, and that is …….
-This person isn’t always like this, at other times they are so <positive qualities>, and I love this about them and this and this and this and this and this and that and this

Also (as mentioned in the lines above), focus on the things you like about them, even if small, and as you focus your attention grows on them, and whilst you're focusing on what you like (and growing) it's not so easy to focus on what you don't like.  When parents say they ‘worry’ about their children because they ‘love’ them, whilst they mean it in a very well intentioned way, ‘worry’ and ‘love’ are two different vibrations [on the vibrational scale], you also know this because they 'feel' different (of course, depending on how each person represents those words internally, but generally speaking).

Vibrational matches

Focus on the vibration of what you want.  Even if it’s not on these people, focus on the qualities you like IN OTHERS if you have to, but just get your attention onto what you like, it doesn’t even have to be about those people that you mention, such that when you come back to them and are around them you will see them from a new perspective and there may be a different vibration you have about it.

When you have a different vibration about something you tend to:
1 – Draw different aspects from the same scenario (eg the same people)
2 – Attract new people which are a match to the vibration

Or a combination.  But the key thing is you are always attracting a vibrational match.

It's all relative to where you're going and and where you are

The thing with sending love, healing etc, is if that works for you then great, the only thing with those things is they imply that there is something that needs to be healed, loved etc, i.e. something on some level that needs healing – which implies something isn’t how you want it or 'should be'. So if initially it works then great, it will get you further up the vibrational scale than where you were, and at higher vibrations you might want to come to it from a viewpoint of what you like and how you'd like things to be and imply that in your thoughts, actions, feelings, etc and forget about why you came to do this or why you’re doing it.  Focus on the aspects that you like because that’s what you do, not because you’re trying to change something or there was something you didn’t like

There is no right or wrong though, so if sending healing or sending love works for you and it feels better, then use that as your indication, your guidance.  It is all relative, relative to what you are working on and where you are coming from and the person that can give you that answer is yourself and your own guidance, which is your emotions.

Allowing

In 'allowing', you are allowing others to be who/what they are, who they want to be etc  – without pushing back, and you are allowing of yourself too.  It's the pushing back that creates discord and attracts more of the same, it's soothing it and being at peace with it and focusing on what you like, what you appreciate, what you love, that attracts more of that too.  The Universe is a place that gives you total choice and freedom.  There is no assertion – such as asserting on another how to be, there IS attraction, the Universe matches based on vibration.

It's what Life was meant to be about

Life is about these sorts of things, that’s what it’s meant to be about, there you are going along minding your own business and something happens – at that moment you have desires for what you would like.  However because your attention at that time is on the thing that happened, you have your desire, but your beliefs (dominant thoughts) are not lined up to it because you’re still thinking about what happened.  The contrast in what happened creates the desire for what you want.  Your job then is to soothe yourself away from those thoughts of ‘what-is’ and work your way up the vibrational scale to WHAT YOU WANT, and you will find that things around you will change.  99% of manifestations are created before you see them on the physical – your job is to focus on that 99%, the emotional journey that you practice before the manifesting, let the Universe take care of the rest.  In that journey you use your imagination and play with your thoughts (and off ‘what-is’), in fact your journey becomes smoother because your thoughts are more and more about what you want – by virtue of Law of Attraction the momentum builds (so long as you don't contradict it with your thoughts) – and soon enough you turn around and see things are a certain way… 

Your job is to keep your vibrational mix about what you want (and FROM what you want) than on what happened or what is, it’s to play with your thoughts, use games (/processes – but seeing them as games is more fun and you have a better vibration about it) and your imagination to form your reality

Over the last few days I have made some wonderful friends and I thought I’d mention them here so you could check their blogs out, etc.  We have found we very much resonate from the same place and will look to refer to each other where possible

– I have mentioned Faydra Rector-Sargent in recent posts, she is in San Francisco and her blog is  Faydra & Company, she and I both share very similar perspectives on many things it seems and have enjoyed referring to each other, I put some posts up from her in the last few days which I know many of you have enjoyed (thanks for the feedback, it’s lovely to hear from you!  I appreciate my wonderful friends!)

– Malathy Badri is in India and her blog is Laws of Universe which very much talks from the perspective of the Universal Laws, vibration, and much much more, all of which I love.  I am looking forward to interacting more with her and finding sharing opportunities where everyone can benefit

In having someone in London, someone in San Francisco, and someone in India, and many others (I have made LOTS of lovely friends all around the world and have had a lot of synchronicities, I happen to mention these above as I am referring to their lovely blogs), it’s a reminder that the Universe works irrespective of time, space or distance.  The only thing that inhibits it orchestrating your dreams for you are your perceived limitations on what you think it can do.  Your new soulmate,  your new business partner, your new nutritionist, your new friend, your new book or idea is ready and waiting for you, you just have to let it in by lining up to it vibrationally, and you do that by practicing thoughts about it and from it…..

This is from my friend Faydra Rector-Sargent, the permalink for this on her blog is
http://faydraandcompany.blogspot.com/2008/03/there-is-no-such-thing-as-lack-of.html

One of the most important concepts for you to know and believe to create the life that you want is that there is absolutely no lack of abundance of the things that you desire. Part of the problem for people who do not have the things in life that they want is that they believe there is only so much of what they want out there to have. This usually is exampled in money for most people or oil, as the government would have you believe.

There is so much negativity attached to the desire for more money and it cracks me up. There is no more reason to be sorry for wanting money than to be sorry for wanting oxygen. You wouldn’t stop breathing for a while because you felt guilty for taking in more air than you should. You wouldn’t voluntarily give up your wellness because you feel guilty for not being sick. The same is true for money. Money is only a source of energy or currency; it isn’t any different than anything else. We could be trading jelly beans for the things that we want instead of money. IF that were the case, the Jelly Belly factory would be the US Treasury.

The next time you start to feel bad for wanting more money, or more health, or more love -remember, there are plenty of people passing up the opportunity to have these things. If you’d like, you can just volunteer to take their unwanted share. The truth is, that the only reason you don’t have more dollars, more health, or a soul mate is because you either don’t really want them, you don’t believe you deserve them, or you aren’t allowing them in because you don’t believe they’re on the way to you. Tune your frequency to the abundance channel and your desires will come to you in technicolor with the highest quality resolution there is.

The more you believe you deserve it, the more you savor the thoughts about it, the more you anticipate the arrival of it, the faster it will come.

This post is from my good friend Faydra Rector-Sargent, the permalink for it is
http://faydraandcompany.blogspot.com/2008/03/dont-focus-on-who-or-how-only-on-what.html. We found our blogs very much resonated with each other’s and we agreed we’d refer to them.  This post is very much what I’ve always said about focusing on what you want and letting go of the ‘How’ and the details and letting the Universe orchestrate it, I’ve written notes on this years ago and have referred to it in posts, including number 17 in Manifesting and Law of Attraction 101

Here we go….

Whenever you are working to be, do and have the things in life that you want, all you should focus on is what you want and three special words: Abundance, Clarity and Well-being. It is not your job to worry about how you will get what you want or who is going to bring it to you. Your focus needs to be on defining what you want, believing that it is yours to have and allowing it to flow to you. I know that to some, this sounds way out there, but at any level, this is all you need to get what you desire.

When you add to what you desire the additional desire to have abundance, clarity and well-being in your life, you are asking to manifest the tools that you need to create your own life. If you desire a new career and you focus on receiving clarity in your life, you will begin to see opportunities where there had been none. You will see people in a new light and you will attract circumstances and people who are beneficial in reaching your goals.

When you desire wealth and you focus on abundance, you will see more than just dollars in your account. You will see everything you want is on sale, coupons, free items, you may win the lottery, you will sense satisfaction with what you already have. These are signs of abundance.

When you desire health and you focus on well-being. You will see your relationships improve, your health regenerate and your awareness of your body and mind increase.

All of this happens by naming it and claiming it with the power of belief and clarity of what you want.

In understanding this law of attraction, there is something else you need to understand. You are only able to attract into your life, that which is like you. You can not will another to you. You can not apply this law to a specific person. If you do and they come it is only because they were on the same level of attraction. I can’t want Brad Pitt, believe he is mine for the having and know that he is on his way. I can; however, desire my soul mate, identify his qualities and know that he is on his way and with the belief that I am abundant, have clarity and well-being, know that I will have what it takes to recognize when he presents himself.

If you set your sights on a person and spend time desiring that person and they do not respond, you are misfocused. If you only allow the possibility that the person you identified is the only thing that you “want”, you are off base. You need to redefine your wanting.

I often use a simple term when I am working out what I want. I simply say “this or something better”. This is my out for knowing that I am not nearly as smart as the universe and therefore in my infinite unwisdom, may think I have it all figured out, but clearly, I do not. So, I always add “this or something better” This, coupled with the moment by moment desire for abundance, clarity and well-being means that I can’t go wrong. I have not made the wanting an all or nothing scenario.

See, if I did the all or nothing scenario, I would only be focused on the “how” or the “who”. I can not truly know the number of ways to achieve what I desire, so by putting out there that I am willing to receive that which I hadn’t even considered (but that may be more fabulous than what I thought I wanted) I am setting the stage for the universe to have a field day in bringing me some great stuff.

Remember Garth Brooks’ song Thank God For Unanswered Prayers? That is an example of the universe knowing better than you.

It is hard in the middle of a tragedy to believe that there is something better. The death of a loved one, a divorce, the loss of a friend or any loss seems unbearable and it seems that no good can come from it. I know that for me, it has brought something good.

Sometimes it is a lesson that makes you better the next time around. Especially in love.

So, for tonight I say this: I desire with all my heart a connection with the universe that allows me clarity, abundance and well-being. In my request, I desire to use that clarity, well-being and abundance to expand myself and the universe in a positive way. I know that all I want is mine to have and that all that I want is here and on its way to me. I deserve the things that I want because I am fabulous and I use my fabulousness to make others fabulous. I desire to connect with people who share the same interests and values as I do and I seek to allow others to be who they desire. I desire to go forth into the world looking for only that which makes me happy. This or something better……

Hi Hemal,

I just, first of all want to thank you for your amazing blog, it’s really
helpful and uplifting.
And I have a question, I am going to compete in my first fitness modeling contest
this year, and as you know I have to be on a special diet exercising etc etc.
Food is something that I really enjoy (as most people) and since I cannot eat what I would like to have I sometimes find myself pigging out one day
or two, then start eating clean for maybe 2 or 3 weeks and then the same thing
happen again. I had no problem stopping the smoking and the drinking since I
started (6months ago) and every time it’s there I just don’t pay attention to it,
and it doesn’t bother me, but with food it’s different I would love to stick to
my diet and not feel guilty and be afraid that I will gain some weight every
time I pig out, or eat something I really like. I’ve been trying to let myself
go to find the answer, but I think I need a little guidance, is there something
that you could tell me please? I would really appreciate it.
Thank you so much.
Karina.

REPLY:

Thanks Karina 🙂

There is leverage when working from the aspect of Vibration

Strictly speaking your body can actually consume whatever it
wants and look how it wants to, it’s to do with the meaning and beliefs someone
has about the food itself, i.e. the vibration they have about the food. So for example if someone eats chocolate cake
they expect their body to respond a certain way, however if their internal
communication was similar to how their body responds to salad, for example,
then it would have the same response. Now one can either work on the internal communication (working on their
vibration) through visualising their body, working with their beliefs etc, or
do things (‘actions’) such as watch their diet, exercise etc, or a
combination, and the answer to that is whatever is the path of least
resistance, whichever is the quickest/easiest way to get where you want to get. Doing things from a vibrational point of view always has
more power and leverage.

By imagining and feeling how it feels, having the body you
want, in detail, you will find yourself more attracted to the behaviours
conducive to that, you may also find yourself around the right advice, hearing
the right things landing on the right websites, bumping into and speaking to people who have something valuable to offer you and so on. The most important thing you can do is line
up your vibration, your feelings and thoughts towards it, and let the universe
orchestrate the rest, and the ‘actions’ will also be more familiar and ‘easier’
too. Create compelling emotions for what
you’re about to do, that totally excite you, let your actions be as a consequence of a love for what
you’re about to do than something ‘forced’.

As regarding loving what you are about to do, practice the
thoughts. You might say ‘I’m not looking
forward to the actions of this’, well focus on something you love about what
you’re going to do, even one small aspect that you know you like or love, whatever that may be.  It doesn’t have to
be an action, it could be something about the competition or how your body will look, it could be ANYTHING, even
un-related to what you are doing, just feel good about something (as it will get you off anything
that didn’t feel good), the key thing is when you are feeling good you are attracting good things in all areas, so long as you don’t focus on resistance or negative emotions in that context.

For example, if someone is having a challenge making money, if they can get themselves to focus on any other subject and feel good and not focus on what about money doesn’t feel good to them they will attract money.  So it doesn’t have to be about the subject that you find things that make you feel good, the priority is feeling good, period.

Tap into the Emotions 

So tap into the emotions of why you are doing it, what do
you love about it? What feels good? What excites you? What burns you with enthusiasm and energy?

Initially it might just be a thought, or maybe you have some
strong thoughts. Just focus on whatever
is there, keep your attention on it and don’t contradict it (i.e. don’t think
of things you don’t like about it lol),
and just by starting to focus on something, no matter how small, and keeping
your attention on it it will grow and grow by virtue of Law of Attraction, and
it will continue to keep growing unless you contradict it

What are the best aspects, what do you love about it?

What are the best aspects of what are you about to do? Wouldn’t it be nice if what happened?  What are the things that would be nice to
happen? It’s not about what things you
think about or what you expect or don’t expect or what’s possible or what isn’t, whether they are real or not or any of the details about them,
what’s important is how they feel, and that’s what’s affecting your vibration
and making far far more powerful changes than your actions alone would.  You could daydream all day and it may not be ‘reality’ but if you just got absorbed in it and it felt good that will do FAR MORE for you than anything else.  When you line up vibrationally you are saving 1000s of action hours.

Seconds of thought are equivalent to thousands of physical action hours

Every 17 seconds of non-contradicted thought you focus on the subject is equivalent to 2000 physical action hours.  Continuing to hold the thought for another 17 seconds (34 seconds in total), thus attracting another thought to it, is equivalent to 20,000 action hours.  51 seconds of thought is equivalent to 200,000 action hours, 68 seconds is equivalent to 2 million physical action hours because each 17 seconds attracts another thought (due to the Law of Attraction) and another thought and so on, and there is a dynamic compounding effect when each thought mixes with the others, and the attraction gets stronger and stronger exponentially and the power and the energy build and attract things to you on a physical level, magnetically and vibrationally things will be drawn to you as a result of your thoughts and you will feel the energy flowing through you.  You will feel excitement and emotions that delight you, they are your indicator on where you are vibrationally, work on feeling good and use your emotions as a guide.

Here are some free introductory audios to Abraham and Jerry & Esther Hicks.

If you are someone who has heard of the Law of Attraction (or even if you haven’t) or someone who has watched/read The Secret and have learnt a little (or even a lot), you could find great value in covering the Abraham material.  Personally I resonate very much with the viewpoint of Abraham and think their material is amongst the best around on Law of Attraction.  My posts on the blog resonate very much with their viewpoint but of course we come from our own unique places and have our own mixes to our work, just like in life, we all bring our own unique recipe to the mix and each contribute to the greater whole.

Their books (see the Books section) are informative, I personally enjoyed them a lot more having heard Abraham, having been in tune with their vibe.  Do also check out the Oprah interviews with Esther/Abraham if you haven’t already, they’re great intros too.

On these free Abraham Hicks audios, from their free Introductory CD, the first six or so are Jerry & Esther giving an introduction as to how they came across Abraham and subsequent ones are Abraham speaking.  In the case of the Oprah audios, she speaks to Esther in the first audio and Abraham in the two subsequent ones.  My point being that it’s worth hearing Abraham speak.

The audios were recorded in the early 90s (or late 80s possibly) and are the early recordings with Abraham and give an introduction to them, their work, and the Law of Attraction, and other laws and contexts in applying the Law of Attraction.

http://abraham-hicks.com/mp3downloads.php

Hi Everyone,

I mentioned the Law of Attraction Blog Carnival, this current one (#29) is being hosted at
http://lawofattractionforbeginners.blogspot.com/2008/03/law-of-attraction-carnival-29.html run by Dean Lacono in San Diego and they’ve included the ‘Attracting someone specific‘ post I submitted as the topic was on using the Law of Attraction in Relationships.

Feel free to check it out, there are some other articles on relationships and also on some other subjects too