This post is from my good friend Faydra Rector-Sargent, the permalink for it is
http://faydraandcompany.blogspot.com/2008/03/dont-focus-on-who-or-how-only-on-what.html. We found our blogs very much resonated with each other’s and we agreed we’d refer to them. This post is very much what I’ve always said about focusing on what you want and letting go of the ‘How’ and the details and letting the Universe orchestrate it, I’ve written notes on this years ago and have referred to it in posts, including number 17 in Manifesting and Law of Attraction 101
Here we go….
Whenever you are working to be, do and have the things in life that you want, all you should focus on is what you want and three special words: Abundance, Clarity and Well-being. It is not your job to worry about how you will get what you want or who is going to bring it to you. Your focus needs to be on defining what you want, believing that it is yours to have and allowing it to flow to you. I know that to some, this sounds way out there, but at any level, this is all you need to get what you desire.
When you add to what you desire the additional desire to have abundance, clarity and well-being in your life, you are asking to manifest the tools that you need to create your own life. If you desire a new career and you focus on receiving clarity in your life, you will begin to see opportunities where there had been none. You will see people in a new light and you will attract circumstances and people who are beneficial in reaching your goals.
When you desire wealth and you focus on abundance, you will see more than just dollars in your account. You will see everything you want is on sale, coupons, free items, you may win the lottery, you will sense satisfaction with what you already have. These are signs of abundance.
When you desire health and you focus on well-being. You will see your relationships improve, your health regenerate and your awareness of your body and mind increase.
All of this happens by naming it and claiming it with the power of belief and clarity of what you want.
In understanding this law of attraction, there is something else you need to understand. You are only able to attract into your life, that which is like you. You can not will another to you. You can not apply this law to a specific person. If you do and they come it is only because they were on the same level of attraction. I can’t want Brad Pitt, believe he is mine for the having and know that he is on his way. I can; however, desire my soul mate, identify his qualities and know that he is on his way and with the belief that I am abundant, have clarity and well-being, know that I will have what it takes to recognize when he presents himself.
If you set your sights on a person and spend time desiring that person and they do not respond, you are misfocused. If you only allow the possibility that the person you identified is the only thing that you “want”, you are off base. You need to redefine your wanting.
I often use a simple term when I am working out what I want. I simply say “this or something better”. This is my out for knowing that I am not nearly as smart as the universe and therefore in my infinite unwisdom, may think I have it all figured out, but clearly, I do not. So, I always add “this or something better” This, coupled with the moment by moment desire for abundance, clarity and well-being means that I can’t go wrong. I have not made the wanting an all or nothing scenario.
See, if I did the all or nothing scenario, I would only be focused on the “how” or the “who”. I can not truly know the number of ways to achieve what I desire, so by putting out there that I am willing to receive that which I hadn’t even considered (but that may be more fabulous than what I thought I wanted) I am setting the stage for the universe to have a field day in bringing me some great stuff.
Remember Garth Brooks’ song Thank God For Unanswered Prayers? That is an example of the universe knowing better than you.
It is hard in the middle of a tragedy to believe that there is something better. The death of a loved one, a divorce, the loss of a friend or any loss seems unbearable and it seems that no good can come from it. I know that for me, it has brought something good.
Sometimes it is a lesson that makes you better the next time around. Especially in love.
So, for tonight I say this: I desire with all my heart a connection with the universe that allows me clarity, abundance and well-being. In my request, I desire to use that clarity, well-being and abundance to expand myself and the universe in a positive way. I know that all I want is mine to have and that all that I want is here and on its way to me. I deserve the things that I want because I am fabulous and I use my fabulousness to make others fabulous. I desire to connect with people who share the same interests and values as I do and I seek to allow others to be who they desire. I desire to go forth into the world looking for only that which makes me happy. This or something better……