WHAT YOU WANT DOESN’T NECESSARILY HAVE TO BE FAR AWAY

There are times when we may feel far away from the things that we would like.  It may be specific things or it may be a direction. It may be that we have taken a path or made certain choices in life which we feel have taken us away from where we want to be.

The truth of the matter is, you can never be far away from what you want because on a deeper level it ALREADY EXISTS.  What you are feeling is the discord in your emotions from what you perceive around you, on a physical level, and your beliefs that you are far from it.

The ‘reality’ is that what you want has already been created on an energetic level (When you think it, it is created.  Everything exists in vibration; all possibilities exist), it has already been conceived, and in your allowing of it through your vibration you give birth to the physical manifestation.

There are various other articles on this blog that touch upon this, including What You Want Already Exists and Your Dream is Alive.

BUILD & ALLOW THE BRIDGE TO WHAT YOU WANT

Build an energetic bridge from where you are at to where you want to be.  Make peace with the present (at least in your own mind) so you are not constantly fighting it and having your attention on lack or resistance to it.

When you look around and put your attention on what you dislike, that dislike is blocking off what you want and offering a vibration to attract more of the same (i.e. dislike).  Make peace with that situation or put your attention on something else so that you are offering a different vibration.

What you want may seem far away, but in you practicing gentle steps towards what you want, you are building the bridge.  For some people, they get excited when they think about their dreams.  Others, they feel despondent because they feel far away from them.  The difference?  The difference is their beliefs about the situation.

In the first case the individual isn’t offering any beliefs or thoughts to contradict what they want, so they can feel good about the dream and it can come.  In the second case the individual, when they think of their dream, are stimulated to bring up their doubts and disappointments.  Both have the dream, one is allowing it, the other is resisting it.

THERE IS POWER IN YOUR ENVISIONING

Put aside any doubts or disappointments or fears or anything else about what you want, allow yourself to dream for the sake of it, because it feels good (that in itself is an indication to your vibration).  Many are not used to doing that because they feel it doesn’t do much. 

If you focus on something that feels good, and regularly practice it, and do not doubt or contradict it, it will get bigger and bigger and bigger very quickly and you will be on your way. 

You will know because of how it feels; the excitement will build and build (if it doesn’t, it is because you are contradicting it on some level).  And very soon you will see physical manifestations.  There is a natural and universal flow for growth and expansion.  You do not even have to ‘try’, you just have to not fight your flow, let the stream carry you.

What happens for most people, like I mention in Manifesting Excellence and to clients, is that many people contradict or doubt or block their flow.  Your flow is infinite and abundant and not only can it carry you to what you want but far beyond what you can fathom.  Your flow is more infinite and abundant than you can see, and remember, there is far more around you that is in addition to what you can see.

And you know this because you have already had experiences that have indicated this to you 🙂

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From my post last month on “Top 10 List for Staying in Alignment“, Ellen Slyngstadli has created a beautiful video.

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FROM BEING DOWN TO BEING IN YOUR FLOW

A few days ago, a friend wrote to me feeling saying that she had been in a wonderful flow and had felt that day that she had – in her words – “crashed”.  She had been feeling great, doing all sorts of things to look after herself, and then all of a sudden she felt things “fall down” all around her and she felt very, very down – down to a degree that she had hardly ever felt. 

She had been intending to become a client before this happened and is about to become one anyway.  I wrote her a message at the time which enabled her to realise how she could get herself back into her flow. 

Within days, she is buzzing and is back in her flow despite how down she was at the time.  She wrote to me this morning with a list of around 10 things that I had mentioned in my message to her which she had organised into a list.  

Enjoy…. 🙂

(To give you the context of some of the points below, I’ve annotated some of them and put the annotations in brackets)

TOP 10 LIST FOR STAYING IN ALIGNMENT

Hi Hemal,

I am going to re-read your note every day for the rest of my life! ha ha  Seriously, there are so many good points that you make there.

1. I love the idea of being “light and easy” with myself. You are right, the easier I allow myself to be, the better I feel! Do not disrupt flow…ok, got it!

(Do not beat yourself up and create resistance from your flow.  Be light and easy and gentle with yourself.  Let the energy flow, and let it build and grow.)

2. No beating self up…stay away from quicksand…excellent point!  Btw, I thought about quicksand a lot as a child…just remembered that…haha

(The languaging she was using was of “crashing” in having come out of her flow.  Understandably, due to the state that she was in at the time, she used the languaging a few times in her original message to me so I asked to her to focus instead on what she wanted (than on what was wrong, i.e. “crashing”).  It’s like quicksand – that’s the analogy I used.  The more we struggle, the more we get pulled in.  The more attention to what we don’t want, the more we ‘fight’, the more we can feel getting sucked in. 

So relax, get your attention away from that.  Don’t put your energy towards it.  Instead, be light and easy because your flow is ALWAYS there, it’s about you letting it in (and not fighting or resisting it).  You are always connected to your flow.  So relax, let it in.  Think thoughts that feel good, they are you letting in your flow.)

3. Relax and know it is ok to concentrate on “me”. I just want you to know that I never knew until a few years back that it is ok to love myself…unfortunately I think a lot of people are unaware of that. (Might make an excellent post for you in the future)

4. Get rid of unwanted thoughts by thinking of being in the “now”. Will try and just revert to breathing technique or mantra…I call on my higher self.

5. Begin thinking of one wonderful thing to appreciate and then add more to the list.

6. Good thoughts = positive flow!

7. Do things that feel genuinely good to you.

8. Do things that energetically have value for you.

(I said to her to consider the things she does, thinks and feels for their ‘energetic value’.  How do they feel?  My sense was she was getting drained because she was focusing on things which energetically didn’t feel great for her and she was ‘getting things done’ and ‘working away’ rather than being in her flow.  She focused on this, as I get my clients to do, and she felt herself driven to do things which were more compelling and had a higher ‘energetic value’ and very easily and naturally her flow came.  I got her to focus on how things felt to herself. 

I have even worked with Law of Attraction coaches in guiding them to making this a way in their lives and their businesses, love lives and many other things have skyrocketed.)

9. Allow yourself to create personal well being doing the things you love.

10. Find your own personal ‘Super’ Coach, like Hemal Radia…:)

By the way, you are absolutely wonderful!

Thanks, things are getting better already…woo hoo!
xox

PS. Maybe you could post this as Hemal’s Top Ten List for Staying in Alignment…

Thanks Hemal for taking the time to respond to my comment, that makes me feel really good 🙂

I have been trying soo hard to be positive and think good thoughts, and i know that we create our own reality but all I am wanting is to be happy and my ex and his entire family are not going to let me be. In fact, it seems that if it’s obvious that I am happy they seem to go out of their way to make me miserable. I just went thru a 2 yr custody battle and won (without an attorney non the less isnt that awesome!!) That was one day i truly felt the power of positive thinking because I went in there and told 100% the truth even though I could no longer afford an attorney and WON!!

But it seems this win has lit a fire under them and now they are trying 10x harder to make things difficult for me. I’m talking EVERY SINGLE DAY there’s either something popping in my inbox from them, prank calls, prank text messages, something coming in the mail, its really getting me down and I’ve even started to gain weight from it all and you know how that is on us women, that is making me even more depressed lol!!

So, I guess what I am asking is, how do I manage to maintain happy and positive in spite of the constant attacks? I certainly don’t think I am bringing this on myself am I? It’s making me miserable and I am already slipping into a depression which is what my ex wants me to do. I fell he just won’t stop until I am destroyed and I know you cant tell from not really knowing me but I am spiraling fast 🙁 Any words of encouragement will be gratefully appreciated.

Thank you again for taking the time to read this and for your lovely daily posts, they mean so much to me, more than you will ever know!!

Much respect,

Shannon

REPLY:

Hi Shannon,

Firstly, I wrote a post on my blog about a year ago which may resonate with you,
As a Single Parent How do I Handle my Ex?

My sense/hunch is that [by your attention to it] you are getting sucked into a fight so to speak. You are focusing on winning this battle and in doing that your attention is in pushing against them and hence you are attracting more of the same, that is just a sense on my part, but you will know best.

The thing to ask yourself is what are you doing all this for? The answer is probably to do with your child and your life, how would you like things to be?  Focus on the positive essences about that (rather than on a battle – which implies being in a battle and attracting more of the same), the things that are important to you about it, regardless of your ex and his family. Take your attention totally away from them and make it about what YOU want and what feels good to you.

Would you be ok with you getting what you want and them getting what they want? That may not be feasible or possible, I’m just asking the question in terms of would you be at peace with them having what they want? Don’t make this about what they get or what they don’t get, make it about the things that feel good to you and are important to you, regardless of them.

Because if you are having the emotions of a scrap, then regardless of them, if they go away then you will attract someone else to fill that space to match the vibration you are giving out (to have a battle). Make it about the essences that feel good – such as the beautiful life that you will have with your child, the things that you will do etc etc – i.e. make it about YOU and totally about YOUR reality, and then others can be drawn to it that match it.

I think the reason you get down is to do with with your attention on them rather than the attention on you.  And of course when you think about them there are emotions which are unpleasant and suck you in…and you think more about it…and it gets bigger, and so on.  Then you have manifestations such as the things that they are doing. And it may not be easy and of course things like ego and pride may come into it, but allow yourself to step away from that situation. Realise anything in life is about YOU, not about anyone else. As you have focused on them and the things that they have been doing it may have angered you or saddened you and of course it created more attention from you on them and it wasn’t allowing you to let it go out of your life.

The way to do that is to envision a life that you would like to be having when all of this is over and feel it now, thus that things can then orchestrate in line with that.  Put the same emotional emphasis to what you would like than on where you are leaving.  What is dominant in your vibration is what you head towards.

This post was automatically imported into my Notes on Facebook.  If you would like to see it and the comments people have been leaving for it then click here: “Battling with an Ex” Note on Facebook.  If you would like to leave a comment you are very welcome to leave one there or in the comments section below.

If you would like to work one-to-one with me on this sort of an issue or another you can find out more information at Work One-to-One with Hemal

You may have started out in life with wonderful dreams of what you will be, do or have.  For some these may be rich and vivid dreams, whether in terms of work and career (or finances, and LOTS of them!), love, family, health and living a wonderful and extravagant life.  For others it may be things which are perceived as being more humble and modest, such as working with the environment, helping animals, working with children, helping those in need, etc.

What happens for many is, as they say, life happens.  Sometimes it may be they end up on a path that veers them away from their original dream.  It may be they take up a job or a career that they believe prevents them from pursuing their dream.  It may be that they get married and/or have children, or something else occurs and they find their time and focus taken up.

YOUR DREAM IS ALIVE

Whatever your dream, it never died.  Your dream has always been alive in your vibration and still is to this day.  Your vibration – just like the Universe and the spiritual part of you – always expands, it never contracts.  Even when you think you have done something wrong or made a mistake, you have never grown smaller but have expanded, always.  You are expanding vibrationally in each moment with the choices and preferences you make in your life.

Your dream has always been alive.

It may be that the dream is not important to you in the same way, and that is fine and that is your choice.  It may be that it was something which at that time aided your growth and experience, and now other things are important, and that is fine too.  In likelihood this will mean that you may have other dreams now too.

So, ask yourself:

– When you think about the dream (or dreams), how does it FEEL?
– Do you doubt you can have it?
– Are you scared of it?
– Are you limiting yourself?  Are you from a place of limitation and fear about it, rather than faith?

YOU ARE ALWAYS EXPANDING ON A DEEPER LEVEL

Realise that you are a vibrational being living a physical life.  You, and everything else, are vibration on a deeper level.  The power that goals and dreams give you is what they do to you vibrationally – such as how you expand when you are excited by them – rather than just the physical world goal or condition you are looking to have.  The goal or condition will be the manifestation of you being a vibrational match to it and will be in your life before you know it, when you are in alignment with it.  It will be a natural consequence and manifestation of your vibration.

So, it is not about whether you can have the dream or not, whether you are scared about it or not, whether you perceive (note: you “perceive” – i.e. it doesn’t mean that’s the reality, it means that’s how you perceive it to be, in your thoughts and beliefs) it is possible or not or whether you ‘perceive‘ it will disrupt your life currently.

What is most important – as I say this in other articles, teleseminars and when I work one-to-one with people – is how does it feel?  You live your physical life with your senses but the spiritual part of you that knows everything (and is ‘God’/the ‘Universe’) communicates to you through your feelings.  It tells you what is best for you at that moment by what feels best at that moment.

It may be that you haven’t practiced your dream for a while.  Allow yourself to daydream.  What if it could happen?  What if it REALLY is there for you?  As you think this, from your place of possibility, notice how real it starts to feel.  And ask yourself, how does it feel?

IT’S NOT ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE AT, IT’S ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE LOOKING

You do not have to forsake the conditions in your life currently for your dream if you do not want to.  If you are in a job and need it to pay your bills or have children that you are looking after or are a house-wife or house-husband, take your attention off the ‘conditions’ and put it on how you WANT THINGS TO BE.  If your attention is on ‘conditions’ what are you attracting more of?  (Clue: “Law of Attraction!”)

As you practice your attention more and more on your dreams what will happen is the Universe will send you clues, it can’t not – as you become more of a vibrational match to something you will attract experiences that match it.

As you continue to practice your thoughts on it, you will get more and more reinforcements along the way.  Your expectations and ‘allowing’ will improve and you will see it more and more.

In terms of the ‘conditions’, what will happen is either they will resolve themselves or they will not be the same issue.  Think of it this way, if your attention goes off the problem – “Oh how in heaven can it happen, I have this and this and this and this that stop me having what I want“, and onto the solution – “Oh I would LOVE this and this and this and this!  Oh it feels SO good to think about what I want!  I’m not going to ‘think’ about it and figure it out, I’m just going to feel good about it and let the Universe hear my vibration and show me it happening“, how can the Universe do anything else but respond?

You came here to be creative and to express the beautiful spirit that you are.  Unleash that within you and allow yourself to think of the possibilities.  Allow yourself to dream and to think in terms of “Well if it IS possible then this will feel good and this will feel good” and so on.  You don’t have to figure out the how.  That wasn’t the deal.  You, from your physical conscious mind, were going to make choices and preferences and the far far far larger spiritual vibrational part of you was going to correspond with Everything-Else-That-Is and create the manifestations.  It just got disrupted when the physical part of you thought you knew it all and were God and tried to overshadow the rest of you.  There is far more leverage and ease when you are in your flow by how you ‘feel’ (vibration, synchronicities, manifestation) than by how you ‘think’ (rational, logic, linear).

You are much much, much more than the physical body you see.  Be in harmony with it and let it flow.  The thoughts that feel good (including your ‘dreams’) are the ones that are in alignment with who you are.  And watch the magic unfold.

This is a beautiful video that Jen Reynolds created.  If you are reading this via the email notification then click here to access this video on the blog.

EVERY NOW MOMENT IS A FRESH MOMENT FOR YOU TO CREATE IN

Every now moment is a fresh moment for you to create in.  It is independent of the previous moment – there is no connection other than any “vibrational carry-over” that you bring over in your thoughts and feelings, i.e. each moment has the potential to be unique and independent and be “separate”; you only create similar experiences by you thinking the same things, not as a result of anything external to you.

It is the same with lifetimes as it is from each successive moment – what is carried over is by your vibration.  And your vibration is as a result of your thoughts and emotions.  So yes, there IS a predestination as there is a vibration, but you also have freewill and choice in what you mould and create and attract with your thoughts.

So when you practice thoughts that feel nice, you will be taking thoughts into your next moment which feel good, and your manifestations in your next moment will be equally as exhilarating.  Essentially, you are “investing in your future” through what you are focusing on right NOW.

YOU FIND YOUR PURPOSE THROUGH YOUR FEELINGS

You were born to create in your life and follow your love and joy.

Everything else along the way has been for you to get clarity for what you DO want.  All the other experiences you been having have been fine tuning your “guidance system” (your emotions!) so you can lock on to your love and joy.  You have been learning what you don’t like, and hopefully using that to put more of your attention on what you DO want!

There is no coincidence for the emotions you feel, on a deeper level they are telling you the way to WHAT YOU WANT.  They know the path of least resistance – the shortest path from where you are to where you want to be.  Use them as guidance.

If you are feeling frustrated or disappointed – look elsewhere.  Or find something in that situation that feels better, a perspective that is different.  Does that feel better?  Keep looking, until SOMETHING feels a bit better.  And then look for something that feels a bit better than that, and so on.  This way you are raising yourself vibrationally and looking on more and more to the things you are wanting to come into your life.

When you follow your love and joy you are in tune with who you really are on a deeper spiritual level, you are in tune with your ‘purpose’.  And as that happens more and more, what else happens is the physical manifestations match that.  They are more and more in the region of the vibration and frequency you are emitting – you attract based on the vibration that you give off.  If you are giving off better and better feelings, what are you likely to be attracting more and more of?

THE UNIVERSE IS READY AND WAITING FOR YOUR ALIGNMENT

So ask yourself – what is the best thing I can think and feel right now?  It NEVER matters whether it is realistic, the key thing is HOW GOOD IT FEELS.  The reason for that is the better it feels the more harmony there is in that thought with the path to WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. 

You can have the most well thought out plan and list of actions, but when you focus on a better feeling thought and another and another and another and so on, you are lining up with the resources of the Universe in the manifestation of what you want.  And the Universe has far more ways of getting you what you want.

And what will happen is in the raising of your vibration, in the raising of your “frequency” as I often describe it, you will be in alignment with the thoughts and ideas and inspiration and “how to” to have what you want.  It may even be that the manifestation takes place without you having to “do” anything other than the vibrational work.  But what will happen is when you are in that place it will flow seamlessly.  You won’t be thinking about “how to make it happen” because you will be too busy being in your flow. 

Your job is for you to feel so good that you’re not looking to your external reality and thinking “it’s not there”.  The irony of it is as you stop caring about it not being there, you are in alignment to it (especially as you are not focusing on the absence or lack of it) and it will enter your reality.

EACH NOW MOMENT IS THERE TO BE MADE THE MOST OF

So, every moment is a fresh canvas.  How creative and colourful and joyful and loving and appreciative will you be in your now moment?  How much enjoyment are you going to milk out of your moments?  It is never about what is happening.  You can find one iota of a thing to appreciate, and by you focusing on it and NOT contradicting or doubting it (that’s key), it will attract more thoughts of the same (Law of Attraction).  The key is not to doubt or contradict, and then you are in your stream attracting more and more good things and the stream will take you to where you want to go if you do not resist it.

THE STREAM IS ALREADY READY TO GIVE YOU WHAT YOU WANT

The stream is already here, there is an energetic stream from where you are to where you want to be.  By you not having resistant thoughts (anger, doubt, fear, guilt, questioning yourself etc) you are actually IN THE FLOW.  And as you have better and better feeling thoughts you are more and more in alignment.  THE STREAM WILL TAKE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO GO.  It will take care of everything for you.  The right people, the right resources, the right synchronicities, they will all be organised in perfect harmony by the Universe in accordance with your vibration – THAT is your job.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF

What is the best feeling thought you can offer in this moment?  It doesn’t have to be the best feeling thought ever, just the best one you can have right now.  And that will create a platform for you to have another better one and another and another and so on. And then you’re on your way along the stream. 

And then you will see physical manifestations which will give you confirmation YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THINGS.  Just have faith in you, don’t doubt yourself, know that you will be taken care of.  Know that it is ok and it will be taken care of and there are powers there beyond what you can fathom orchestrating the solutions to all the problems you could ever imagine.  And it will be taken care for you, by you going with your stream and your alignment.

Remember, each moment is a fresh moment, and you have total choice what you want to put your attention to in it.  All possibilities exist.

What possibilities will you allow for yourself?  What will you let yourself deserve and have?

‘Allowing’, is about relaxing and releasing the resistance. It is actually about letting in the natural wellness than ‘trying’

The trying will come naturally, when you release the resistance you will be naturally uplifted anyway, your natural inspiration will flow through and you will be INSPIRED to take the right actions and be at the right place at the right time

You know how sometimes when you forget a problem it solves itself? That type of thing. Or when someone has had an argument with someone but they get distracted by something else and the argument resolves itself?

The Universe is all around you and within you and WANTS to bring the wellness to you, it’s about letting go of the thoughts that don’t let it in. Sometimes that can be by thinking good thoughts or relaxing, but certainly taking attention off that which is not letting it in, eg worry, fear, whatever it may be. That’s why good thoughts actually serve as a distraction away from that, regardless of them being good in and of themselves also

Everything you want is actually ready to come into your life, it’s a process of letting it come in. We do not actually have to ‘chase’ it, the Universe knows what you want because you have asked for it in your vibration, you just have to align to it with your thoughts and match it vibrationally and the Universe will orchestrate the rendezvous